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Gee80
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Feeling worse

Posted in Quit experiences 13 Nov 2021
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First week was fine.

On day 8 and I’m Annoyed. Angry. Can’t have a coffee because it’s my #1 trigger.

Short tempered.

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  • NOPE-2021 November 13, 2021 | 10:35
    Okay Gee80, I know you can get through this. After reading a bunch of posts from this site, you must know that many of us have gone through some pretty disturbing days especially in the beginning. But also know, days will pass and it will get easier. Day 8 is amazing. Be proud!

    My only suggestion which worked for me is to see what time it is when you get the urge and see how you feel after and hour. Will the urge be less? Perhaps you will even forget about the urge! Just go slow and take it one hour and one day at a time. Drink water, breath deep and go to bed early. Of course, use this site to get some encouragement and get inspired.

    I know from your posts that you are absolutely ready to get nicotine out of your life. Hang in there. Hang with us and stay positive. Your moods will get better,.. seriously. Nothing worth doing happens overnight. It will take some time and you deserve to give yourself time because you are worth it. You know what you want, so hang in there, stay strong and keep to your plan. Have a great smokeless day!!! You CAN do this!!!
  • Gee80, South Eastern Sydney November 13, 2021 | 11:08
    I know I can count on your comment NOPE-2021

    My biggest craving is the morning after my coffee. I wake up an hour earlier to have time alone before kids wake up with their chaos. This is my weakness. I enjoy being outside, coffee, ciggie, fresh air, and going through my daily activities ahead. It’s my break. It’s the best feeling I can’t seem to get turned off by.
    I can handle after meals now but I can’t handle the morning coffee boost. It actually energised me fir the day.
  • NOPE-2021 November 13, 2021 | 12:25
    I'm not sure what to suggest. I also know that coffee time first thing in the morning was one of my toughest times. Grit your teeth and work through it. That is a "habit" type of thing I think. Maybe someone in this community will come to your aid with a helpful suggestion. I get it. I know what you are saying. I hope you can get through this. As we all know, life does change without cigarettes. It's supposed to change for the better. Be strong and try to substitute your coffee with something else perhaps? I'm sure you aren't the first person to feel this extreme compulsion when it comes to morning coffee/routine. Unfortunately, there is no easy button. Get to thinking you can go through your morning routine without the cigarettes. Keep thinking you are on a mission to get this poison OUT of your life. Try to HATE the cigarettes. Stay focused on your plan to quit. Get this addiction OUT of your life.

    I know it is a discomfort. Just like I smoked before a project then after a project as a reward. Now I have adjusted to doing and finishing projects without any smokes. I got used to it. Took some time, but I got there. You will get there too. The reward is much better for a little discomfort. Stick to your quit plan and soon you will get through this. Remember, you WANT to quit. You don't need cigarettes in your life. Be strong, focused and know that you will get through this. You NEED to get through this morning ritual without smoking in order to stop the addiction. You can do this. Everyone has those "tough" times. People manage to get through those times and you can manage as well. Stay focused and don't even take one puff. You will thank yourself later!!! Hang in there!!!
  • NOPE-2021 November 13, 2021 | 12:41
    Day #8 is really amazing. Look at what you did!! You are DOING it!!! Give yourself some credit for getting this far. You are really kicking it. You need to realize that you are on the road to freedom. Day #8 will turn into day #9 and so on... Sometimes one needs to fight for what they want! Some people have it easy but some don't. And the ones that don't have it easy make it to the finish line. You too can get to the finish line. Don't give in and don't give up!
  • NOPE-2021 November 14, 2021 | 1:45
    Hello Gee80. I slept on your dilemma. I wonder,... could it be you are just not ready to quit? I would never suggest this, but I think sometimes through my own experience, that "this is not the time"? And that's okay too because most of us have had to keep "quitting" until it stuck. You really need to WANT it and if that WANT is not there, it's easy to fail (not that someone would be considered a failure). I wish you the best. You'll get there.
  • Piff November 14, 2021 | 3:32
    I recently posted about being so grumpy all the time too. It has just gotten better in the last week (4 weeks in today). Not totally gone but fewer moments of anger and the time spent in a bad mood is less and less. As far as coffee goes I also struggled with this trigger but the more cups of coffee you have sans cigarettes the easier this gets. I guess, in conclusion, things get easier with time. Just stick with it!
  • Gee80, South Eastern Sydney November 14, 2021 | 11:00
    Okay NOPE-2021
    I wouldn’t be on this site wasting my effort every day to tackle a smoking habit if I wasn’t ‘ready’ to quit.
    I haven’t previously quit because I didn’t want too.
    Now I want to quit cause I’m older and wiser.
    1. I don’t want to die early.
    2. I want to love for my kids.
    3. I don’t want cancer.
    4. I don’t want wrinkles
    5. I don’t want to be a smoker.
    PERIOD.
    If that’s not ‘ready’ enough reasons. ‘Auvergne I should get off this site abs keep this all to myself, because I’m not into having these kinds of comments. It’s Stuck. That’s why I’m here.
  • Gee80, South Eastern Sydney November 14, 2021 | 11:01
    My Quit plan.
    My quit experiences.
    For me to personally look back on and see my progress.
    I’m ready or else I would be here.
  • NOPE-2021 November 14, 2021 | 11:13
    I hear you. Sorry 'bout that. Did not mean to upset you.
  • NOPE-2021 November 14, 2021 | 11:29
    I actually did put much thought (and time) into your situation, as I do with other posts. (I think I am better off being a "reader" ONLY). Again, sorry to have upset you.
  • Gee80, South Eastern Sydney November 14, 2021 | 17:11
    I’m just gonna quit commenting.
    I’ll just use it gut to see my daily tracker, was never intending to be part of a quitting cult. I’ll stick to reading other people’s experiences, that helps enough.
    I know what it takes, and I know it’s hard, I just have to do it.
  • Segan, South Western Sydney November 14, 2021 | 18:51
    Keep going Gee 80, i have been througj the same stuff you have,same vravings for food,cranky,sleepless, but know just over 3 weeks since i quit,and all these things are going away. I have smoked for over 50 years, this is the best thing i have done. More money in my pocket, i feel better,and have found other ways for me time. Got a disposable vape,$18 and lasts a werk,this gives me something to do with my hands when i go outside.
    Good luck, its worth the pain
  • Happiness November 15, 2021 | 0:59
    Not all that come to this site stick it out and quit. They know they should and give it a try. They think they want to quit too, but don't. If they continue on with us, they may or may not learn enough and find the true desire to be smoke-free. It is not the "quit" but the desire for change and the belief that you can. Here on I canQuit we try to encourage people . I also have told a couple of people that they just weren't ready and why go through making yourself miserable and just mark time to not even change the attitude. That said, I don't think that you are much different than many, many others here. And many of them succeed.....if not at first, then in another attempt.

    Did you know that caffeine makes us jittery and that we should cut our coffee by half when lessening the nicotine intake? Otherwise people feel "anxious" and of course everything is linked to quitting smoking. Nicotine reduced the effect of caffeine on us. Quitting smoking does not make us feel anxious , too much caffeine does.
    You may resent "giving up smoking" if you also have to give up your social life, or doing things you love, like drinking coffee or alcohol. I changed my routine, but I did not stop doing things I enjoyed doing. Nicotine acts on alcohol and that is why we chain smoked when drinking. At least I did, and I think others found that too.

    Yes Gee80, You know what it takes.......desire, commitment and a belief in yourself.

    I disagree that it is hard......it is what you believe it to be. Change how you think of it. You are not giving up anything, but Choosing to Change.

    And while you think ....."And I have to do it" does not make it something that you WANT to do.

    We all do things that we have to do and do not like to do. It doesn't mean that we will ever enjoy or be happy about doing them. The garbage needs taken out and the toilet cleaned......but I will never enjoy doing it. When I clean the house and take pride in the change, it makes me feel good. It is how I want it to be all of the time.

    I hope that you can see the difference Gee80. We are all here initially to quit smoking and the support some get is invaluable in their minds. I hope that Nope and others continue to that end. The community would not exist if not for input and caring.

    I have written a piece for those who find it difficult to quit successfully. "If You've Given Up Giving Up". When the mind adjusts and accepts the change, kicking nicotine to the curb is easy. Never think that you can't quit. If there is a will there is a way.......or their is always the "Mindset".
  • Goodlands November 15, 2021 | 4:26
    Gee80. I know how awful that irritability is and those cravings. Someone who used to post here talked about Nicoman and the pure joy of taking a deep clean breath and not coughing and having overcome the addiction of Nicoman. I have quit so many times and sometimes for years at a time and the last time I quit I came onto this site three or four times a day and just took those good wishes of people posting here and used them and continue to use them. We;re all rooting for you.
  • Ris, Illawarra Shoalhaven November 18, 2021 | 23:39
    Smoked for 38 years and I gave up this time easy no real effort. I decided not to make a song and dance of it and kill the moaning whining voice in my head......boo hoo poor me can't smoke. Instead I decided to change the channel in my brain and set about changing things around my house and routines to that of a non-smoker. For example - get rid of all the old pots or ashtrays in your yard and plant them with flowers or something you like, so when you look at them you smile instead and watch them grow. Start your day with something fund and creative with your coffee, like painting a terracotta pot, drawing something in a mindful way so you focus eg. a mandala, take your laptop and obsess about antiques on FB Marketplace. Take joy in something positive and just stop thinking about smoking hasn't it stolen enough of your life and money
  • Ris, Illawarra Shoalhaven November 18, 2021 | 23:50
    May I suggest you try something that worked for me, 3 steps super easy and I am day 68. The only reason I am here is the quit line contacted me to help out the new quitters by offering encouragement and ideas. So here it is
    1. "The Hypnotist Podcast" - download smoking podcasts and play while you are asleep, throw in some confidence building ones too they help
    2. Mindfulness - replace smoking with some new activities that take real concentration, you don't have to be good at them just need to focus and laugh at your new learning experience
    3. Turmeric - take a quality capsule each day, it helps staves off the cravings better than anything I have found and it is good for you. Active ingredient is Curcumin which stimulates dopamine the same as smoking a cigarette, except a cigarette is only temporary. Over time your dopamine will recover, its smoking that reduces it and then we constantly crave it. Remember it is not Nicotine that is the problem you want the happiness from dopamine
  • Ris, Illawarra Shoalhaven November 18, 2021 | 23:57
    May I suggest you try something that worked for me, 3 steps super easy and I am day 68. The only reason I am here is the quit line contacted me to help out the new quitters by offering encouragement and ideas. So here it is
    1. "The Hypnotist Podcast" - download smoking podcasts and play while you are asleep, throw in some confidence building ones too they help
    2. Mindfulness - replace smoking with some new activities that take real concentration, you don't have to be good at them just need to focus and laugh at your new learning experience
    3. Turmeric - take a quality capsule each day, it helps staves off the cravings better than anything I have found and it is good for you. Active ingredient is Curcumin which stimulates dopamine the same as smoking a cigarette, except a cigarette is only temporary. Over time your dopamine will recover, its smoking that reduces it and then we constantly crave it. Remember it is not Nicotine that is the problem you want the happiness from dopamine

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