Tough Day

Don't do it. It's not worth the progress you've made so far. Distract yourself with something else. Go for a walk. Chew some gum. You can do this TK!

TK,,,,,,,,, remember the Mindset that Allen Carr has spoken about. Well you have that naturally, you understand it. If you have to put a second patch on in stressful situations, well do it , I;m begging you , you will regret buying a packet.

And you will be back to square one. Anytime you get the urge, you have to wait, think, pause think. By that time the commonsense has kicked in and you can easily say no thanks,

You don't want a cigarette. You are angry at the bank for not giving you a loan. Buying thousands of dollars in cigarettes will not help you with this. Get a small limit on a credit card and establish credit. As with smoking, you need to have self discipline. Maybe credit cards got you in too deep.... quit smoking and maybe a family member will help you out.

This is the second time you've had a difference of opinion with your fiance since joining us. It is hard for her as a non-smoker to know what you are going through and that some quitters become irritable. Just be honest with her about EVERYThING. When you quit smoking and laying out that astronomical expense the money problem will solve itself. Be patient. Be understanding. Be positive!

I may not be the smartest kid on the block but I do know that the first 3 days are crucial.

you got passed that with flying colours. yep.

To get to 33 days you have to get through some frustrations that were not expected. It may be that you have to buy yourself some time here. Buy some nico gum if you have to? It can ease some tension relatively fast compared the the slow and steady release of the patch.

Be prepared for those stresses over xmas. I dont want you to smoke

Thanks everybody. I managed not to go to the store. Tried to just distract myself with reading instead. I guess I’m finding it difficult to fully break the illusion of the association between cigarettes and calming.

Actually, my fiancé is a smoker and that’s kind of what our argument was about. The whole time we’ve been together she’s been saying she wants to quit and I’ve never seen her take a step so I called her on it today.

Thankfully my girl Quit roughly 15 months ago, easily, cold turkey, and now its my turn. She hates the smell and at first she was ok with me smoking, but now its totally irritating her sinuses. But you stick to your guns and conviction. You can still put up with living with a smoker. Its just you that we want to succeed. If you get to next year she'll probably give up too

Trying TK I'm like you....An emotional person who also had a tiff with a family member over the weekend. I was so depressed and crying on Monday and did THINK about a cigarette. I wanted one.

Honestly what would it change????

NOTHING AT ALL!

It wouldve made me WORSE!

It was what I would've done b in the past for sure. Consoled myself with a stinky bit of paper rolled up with nicotine laced tobacco that tastes like dog S**T!!!

I would've felt so much self hatred. I didn't and so glad. I'm Day 14 today!

You're right behind me. We're NOT going back. We'll get there my friend. Us emotional ones seem to take longer to extricate ourselves from the habit not so much the addiction.

Please don't nag your fiance. We all QUIT in our own time. This is the your time now. My husband has been trying to get me to quit for 40 years! Better late than never! Hes happy but he doesn't understand really as never smoked himself. Its so black and white for him.....I GET IT NOW!

keep free of smoking. Get some gum for those times if you are hanging out.

Take care

No one can tell you to quit smoking. Even with all the right answers and 101 reasons, it has to be their decision. Hubby smoked in a chair next to me for two weeks when i quit, until he did as well. He would have gone else where if I had asked, but it really didn't bother me. He had always been the one to suggest quitting and I just hoped the notion would pass....... go figure.

Ask her to smoke else where and chew gum as a courtesy to you. If you are pushing her and she is not ready, she may be thinking it is an all or nothing. Hopefully you are strong enough to stay quit down the road while she still smokes. In a perfect world, she will see that you have succeeded and perhaps that will instill the confidence in her to give it a try.

Yes. Keep on your own track and your own journey. Your fiance has to get herself there on her own.

You can't threaten, bully or beg anyone to give up. I know my family and friends have been trying for years. I didn't WANT to before. I do want to be FREE now. I'm sick of being broke, ostracized and being so put out by being a slave to cigarettes. They ruled my whole adult life. Not anymore.

I rule my life now!

You're doing so well and your forum friends are so proud of you. You ARE succeeding

Merry Christmas TryingTK. We're going to get there. Have a smoke free Christmas day for the first time in a long time.

Thanks for being a good friend.

Some of us struggle a bit more than others but keep going forward and don't look back at those filthy rip off fags that took you for a ride.

Take your girl out for a nice dinner or go to the movies or treat yourself. Even fish and chips at the beach or a lookout is awesome. You didn't hesitate to spend $42 for the a packet of cigarettes so spoil yourself as you're worth it!

Take care.

How's it going TryingTK. We miss you here and hope you are just too busy what with the holidays and all. If you have had a slip up, we understand, it happens to even the seasoned members. Thankfully one came back again today.

Hoping to hear from you soon either way. Never give up wanting what is the best for you and your future. You can do this!