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Day 81 and need some help!

Hi All,
I am on day 81 quit and somehow feelings of first week of quit are back since starting of week 12! I have lot of anxiety and chest tightness. Anger and irritability are back just like week 1 of quit.
I remember during my 1st quit, I had similar symptoms, however, this time I only exposed myself to nicotine for less than 4 months hence I was expecting to feel better earlier but unfortunately, during this quit, I don't remember any "easy" days so far.
I quit cold turkey 81 days ago and bought nicotine gum as backup on week 2 but have not used them. Nicotine gums are still with me and due to extreme withdrawal symptoms, I feel like having nicotine gum.
I need help to understand if this is normal after 81 days? I am stressing while typing but I don't want to put nicotine gum in my mouth.
Please help me if someone has experienced similar symptoms after 80+ days in quit. And if so, how long it took to feel "normal" again?
Thanks in advance,

Hi Standly, a friend of mine who quit smoking around the same timeI did had told me that sometimes she had extreme want to smoke 8 and 9 months after quitting. It come in waves sometimes. Stay strong.

Hi Standly.
Be firm and strong with your thoughts of withdrawl. Get busy to reduce some anxiety and think about something else....If I hadnt had 2 significant SLIP-UPS, I would be on day 81 too, But Nah. I have to put up with irritability, depression and despair that Week one gives me.
Please avoid going back to my stage

Thanks PuffNoMore. I went out for walk, which generally helps, however, since last week, I still get anxiety after walk.
I guess, I will have to drink a glass of water with 2 teaspoon cement and toughen up!

I think you're right, toughen up in our anxious minds, but we dont want to set like concrete. lol

Hi Standly, try taking a few slow deep breaths. Also you can try a guided meditation to relax, these are readily available on YouTube. I promise if you try it you will not feel anxious after 1/2 an hour, it really works.

Hi Standly I find carrying a bottle of water with me helps and everytime I get the urge I drink from the bottle kind of like instead of putting something bad in my body do the opposite and something good. It's not the strongest of methods but it feels good and it's a plus for me not so much for the cravings but helps with mindset.
Best of luck

I have great admiration for your determination Standly. Your nicotine receptors have shut down, and you really do not want to take any form of nicotine to ignite them again. Keep up positive thoughts, try Leanne's suggestion of meditation. Keep reading old stories . You never know when something will just resonate, and set that light bulb off to an Ah Ha moment.
Hey Standly you are doing really well day 81 that’s fantastic! Something Iv noticed about myself is that my anxiety seems to increase when I’m not smoking, I mean after the initial withdrawal time. But the longer I am quit for the more I realize that I have had this anxiety all along and just been self medicating with cigs and alcohol. Now I am quit the anxiety is still there but I am looking to deal with it in healthier ways like the meditation suggestion above. So don’t feel like you need to “harden up”. Be kind to yourself and take time out when you feel the anxiety levels rising. Good luck

Thank you all you wonderful people. Without your support , I wouldn't have survived for so long during this quit.
I would like to update that something has changed since yesterday evening around 6:30 PM.
Last whole week I had been going through lot of withdrawal, similar to week one, but after stressing whole day yesterday and trying every tricks I could try to feel OK, things just changed by itself and I can report that since yesterday evening, I am feeling the best I have felt since last 81 days (No stress, no depressive mood, no need for distraction, just nothing). Today, day 82, is first day when I feel like myself. I am clam, composed, smiling and happy! At least now I have faith that I should be OK.
Again, thank you all for your support.
Cheers,
Standly

Thank you all you wonderful people. Without your support , I wouldn't have survived for so long during this quit.
I would like to update that something has changed since yesterday evening around 6:30 PM.
Last whole week I had been going through lot of withdrawal, similar to week one, but after stressing whole day yesterday and trying every tricks I could try to feel OK, things just changed by itself and I can report that since yesterday evening, I am feeling the best I have felt since last 81 days (No stress, no depressive mood, no need for distraction, just nothing). Today, day 82, is first day when I feel like myself. I am clam, composed, smiling and happy! At least now I have faith that I should be OK.
Again, thank you all for your support.
Cheers,
Standly

Good to hear Standly, even after 82 days we can feel like crap.
I guess its handy to remember, that, if we are having a bad day, that tomorrow will be better.

Yes PuffNoMore, this is my 2nd quit. During my 1st quit I remained quit for 2 years and I remember during that time I had few challenging days after 3-4 months but due to some reason, my 1st quit for not so hard.
Anyway, I will be vigilant and once I am done through this, I am not going to put nicotine in my mouth forever.

Yes, We simply dont use tobacco anymore, We are gaining strength all the time. We've been on Quits before, but this one is different, because its our LAST!

Thanks Debbie317. One day at time and all should be fine. You are at right place as this site is amazing and has so many stories and experiences from people who have lived days all smokers go through when they quit. I have had lot of support and help from people here during challenging phase of quit. All the best to you for your quit.

I am so glad that you have turned a corner. They did not seem like symptoms of withdrawal, and probably weren't. At any rate, it made you realize that what you had experienced up to that point were mild in comparison. Now disappeared again, you were just thankful and not "fearful" of a non-threatening urge or feeling anymore Your perception changed, and you now accept being a non-smoker is the likely reason. Hurray!
Sometimes we take things for granted. We don't truly appreciate things we have until we lose them.