DOES ANYONE FIND THE MINDSET TO BE HELPFUL?

I in no way take credit for this MINDSET. but did fall into it with a genuine need and desire to quit smoking forever! That in itself is the mindset needed, but may not so easy for some to achieve. Allan Carr explains it so well in his books the Easy Way, and How to Stop Smoking Permanently.(400 pages) I read the latter after i had already quit smoking cold turkey. CBQ with Nadia Davis also seems like a good course to quit (on line webinars) if you want to pay $$$. Just two recommendations i give wholeheartedly . (sign up with her and get some free insight)

They deal with why some people are even afraid they will succeed in quitting smoking because they are afraid they don't know how to be a non-smoker.

How the nicotine hi-jacked your perception of smoking

How the cigarette controls you and does absolutely nothing for you

Instead how it causes stress, dependence, and steals the glory for your own confidence.

They don't use scare tactics, you already know how bad it is health wise

How to be freer, happier, smell nicer, healthier and look younger,

How to use tools to make life adjustments.

Simple, yet effective. I did it. So can you all.

The right mindset is the key. If you treat smoking as a forbidden fruit you will eventually revert back. Been there, done that. Smoking is a gross, expensive, unhealthy addiction that I have no desire to return to and in my mind it’s something I no longer want.

Hello All .

Even those who come here to quit smoking, feeling forced with no choice due to circumstances can still find the mindset. It is just a logical thought process really, an understanding of how we became addicted and why. How to face any fears of living without the cigarette at hand, and finally making the decision that we do WANT to become happier, healthier people with fuller lives. Once the mind is open to that possibility it can heal itself and banish the cravings. Did you know that your liver can regenerate itself from as little as 25% of itself? The mind is a powerful organ as well and can also heal from what abuse we have allowed.

Quitting smoking is not achieved by willpower alone, but by taking steps , learning , accepting and desiring a better way of life. IcanQuit is a great place to start the healing process and together we will support each other and face any fears that may hinder our progress.

Thanks to Red and Robn above who i found when i first came on this site, and had also found the mindset like i had. Thanks to Safe, who had a more difficult time but also came to understand what they were trying to teach her. I am glad that you are felling much more comfortable with your quit since i first came only three weeks ago. I do believe there are a few more that achieved it before my arrival, and hopefully a few who are grasping the concept since. I would love to hear from you. I am sure newcomers would also like to better gage this "mindset".

Please give us your thoughts.

mind set is everything. another upside to this journey is can discover so much about yourself . you can also get so much support from sites like this .thank you all

Almost 7 weeks without smokes, with the help of Nicotine Replacement T in the form of inhalers and will need a steadfast mindset to live happily without the drug

It all helps

keep your research coming in.

watching some Chris Stoyles on YouTube. He's a worthy distraction with some ideas for staying away from the smokes.

Thank you all soo much...My 1st post was about the mind games that u people are posting...glad I got on iPad today....thank u all x

So I watched Chris Doyle's Quitting Smoking-4 ways to making it easier in which he explains the things he would have changed with his quit. 1 was to staying away from smokers, when possible, and talk to another non-smoker (there is a whole new world out there) 2. He always expected it to be hard and he failed several times, but he always went into a quit with that stacked against his success. He recommends thnking Others do it so can I, and It doesn't have to be a hard thing to do, and i will do it. In short Positive thinking. 3) He would have had the foresight to stock up the fridge and pantry with good whole foods to maintain weight or done something else to replace smoking besides eating too much and gaining weight. Just another problem to deal with, but definitely quit smoking regardless and deal with it later. 4) Addressing why he felt insecure, or his lack of self esteem which started his smoking, and then replaced with eating. I think we all started to fit in or change our image when we were young. Anyways, we are no longer young, and these days i do as i want without anyones approval so that didn't stop me from quitting.( or from staying smoking) In fact the only ones who could make me feel bad about smoking were my parents. It is funny that no matter how old we are we still want acceptance and approval from our parents. I guess that comes from being parents and loving our kids unconditionally, knowing they have faults, but wanting the best for them and loving them all the same regardless. So we know understand how our parents feel about us, but still didn't make me want to quit!

Again think positive, all the good in your life and around you. How you deserve to be healthy and happy .

I liked the video PuffNoMore. I may even see if i can find and follow his quit on You Tube. He is putting another video up next week he said.

Thanks again for the recommendation.

chris SKOYLES. Thats his name

Anyway I'm off to our tennis clubs xmas lunch and A.G.M

I know I wont smoke, but I'm a little nervous of the occasion.

Some people I will be seeing would expect me to be smoking. Smoking defined me in a way. Just another situation where I'll PuffNoMore

Thank you for that correction. Chris Skoyles smoking ... anyways it came up. I hate going on You Tube because i will stay on it for hours. One thing leads to another... much like cigarettes..lol.

You have great time at you Christmas luncheon.. nothing to be nervous about, they will love the new you, just as we do.

So how did your lunch go? I hope your nervousness subsided once you got there and you got to enjoy the occasion. I am sure they were surprised and impressed by the new you. I hope it made you feel good about yourself and helped you to realize that you can get through these situations without a cig as a crutch. You strike me as being very successful in life. An achiever. You will succeed here too.

thanks for asking,.. i can not say i'm very successful and prefer to think of myself as having some successes. own home, Kids have grown up nicely, In a nice relationship,Well traveled (when working) retired now.

I should be doing this quit really easily.

Sometimes I get very nervous and I had been using the smokes literally as a smokescreen. I was a smoke stack and as you say the cig was the crutch. Ive virtually got a generalized anxiety disorder which at its worst can really affect my self-esteem at times. Most of the time I'm totally content with my life. So there, I've blown my cover and illusion of being a success.Its probably no surprise that people with a mental affliction are the bulk of smokers in australia today and that its just easier to continue to smoke?

Anyway, I got through the xmas lunch with no smokes, infact I stood in between two smokers and sniffed it all up. It was all i needed. Still smoke free, 7 weeks tomoz

Good for you PuffNoMore. So your fears were unfounded. You were worrying about nothing. Allan Carr's book addresses that as a hindrance to a quit. You may be worried that you are going to succumb one day and harbor that thought in the recesses of your mind. If you do that you keep the nagging alive.

Maybe.....YOU ARE WAITING FOR SOMETHING THAT ISN'T GOING TO HAPPEN. Something you hope never does. You know you are stronger than the nicotine monster these days, have done battle and have already won. Believe it!

You do seem to have the resolve to quit PuffNoMore. Is there anything that we say that you do not agree with? Any "buts"?

Stop waiting for the worse to happen when it isn't!

I think that being content is a very good spot to have achieved in life. You have done well for yourself and should be proud. I too own my own home, raised good kids and had an average life by whole. I have worked hard to achieve it, yet am not a materialistic person. In fact, probably because of hard years, I am still thrifty and lead a very simple life. Simple usually means less stress, and contentment. What it all gives me is security. I could retire and enjoy the money i have saved, but feel guilty spending the earnings on the investments. It will go to the kids one day , but i help them out now, as my parents did with us. I know they wouldn't have qualms of spending it! So why shouldn't I?

We put ourselves in a quandry or Limbo. Once I decide to do either retire or not i will stop feeling guilty about my thoughts and indecisiveness Then I can go on the be a Happy Retiree! Yippee!

Hi Happiness its funny to think that I've been a non smoker longer than you. Your always so positive and full of practical information. You seem to be dedicated to the cause and I appreciate you and others striving to help others not so sure about the QUITTING journey.

Thank you very much

just you tubing advertisements from the 1960's

Now watching how Americans got addicted to cigarettes..

Cigarettes were for the masses but not anymore

LUCKY STRIKE MY AS

The mindset was a game changer for me. I am now 7 months tobacco/nicotine free. I read Alan Carr’s book and like many of you that have read it, my mindset was completely changed. It is incredibly powerful to be honest about the nature of the addiction and to be honest with yourself about your smoking habit.

I started young, smoked for 18 years and quit fairly young. I haven’t felt so healthy and capable in, well 18 years! Quitting was a huge catalyst for positive change in my life and I refuse to go back. Like many that have quit, I now simply feel pity for smokers. If only they knew how easy it really can be to stop!

Thank you Alan Carr, and all of you for your inspirational stories!

Thank you, Happiness for your kind words and encouragement! My apologies for the delay. I have been quite busy this month!

I am happy to hear that both you and your husband were able to quit and realize how wonderful it really is. This site and Alan Carr were instrumental when I was ready to quit.

As you have requested, I will add another story, especially from the perspective of 7 months later!

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