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SillyT
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My one week anniversary as a non smoker

Posted in Staying quit 26 Jun 2016
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Well I've done it, and I'm just so so proud of myself, I've survived week one and the first of a life long journey, and as you all are aware that we can't even have one cigarette as it will quickly become our habit again , so congratulations to all who have made their 1st day, 1st week you're 1st post and the real soldiers who have been quit for ages, we have started and done this journey together and with out our "I can quit community " I think a lot of us would have returned to our addiction, I don't think that I'm alone but I have found great peace and support from all who have posted and replied to our posts.

So I am so happy for how long I have gone without having a cigarette, I have had a few days of really persist cravings, but I was able to evert myself from caving from posting and reading as well as ( when it's super uber bad ) I rang the quit line, my triggers were shopping, it's when I bought them , and after dinner, but it's getting better each day, also I would like to say a huge thank you to my supportive husband, his support has been paramount to my journey, and also one other very special person , who has been the most important support person this community has and that is " IC "you're advice , life experiences , you're compassion and support has made our quit journey just that much more enjoyable than doing it alone.

I rang my mother up the other day and told her how I've quit smoking ( she was a smoker too but was forced to quit , and she can't get herself cigarettes because she's wheelchair bound and my dad would not buy her any ) and I should've been ready for her reply as it was so negative and extremely difficult for me to listen too, at first she didn't believe me that I had quit and then she said that I'll start smoking again, I got really upset by this negativity and no respect for my feelings, and not one shred of support all because she was forced and really had no choice in it , she is out to be as negative as she could possibly be, down right nasty, but I've taken this negativity and turned it into a positive, because I said to her that I don't and will not walk in her foot steps no longer, I will not be like mum and dad with both having severe emphysema from smoking, dad had bladder cancer ( removed and has a bag to collect urine ) mum has severe ulceration on both legs and is getting to the point of amputation , and both of them have both lost all their teeth, all from smoking, so that is one of the biggest motivations for me quitting as I don't want to have a life like theirs all from smoking, if I continued on smoking I would turn out just like them .

So from the beginning of my journey I thought it was all about the cig , but it's a whole new meaning, it's a journey that is about discovery about what makes you who you really are, what triggers you and most importantly the respect that you have found for yourself and that you don't want to harm yourself no more , and how strong your will is to do the right thing to yourself and being honest, thank you all so much for the support on my journey, keep smiling and laughing , and keep strong, muwwwa xxxoo 💋🐾😀😜

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  • Flora June 26, 2016 | 12:26
    Congrats on your achievement, that's awesome. I have always been a positive person and try to find the good side of any situation....I know what you mean about negative people. I really dislike negative people in general...they are total drainers and can be soul destroying. I also had someone say similar thing to me about smoking, and that I'll take it up again etc. I was thinking, how rude that was. I mean, even if you think it, dont say it.
    Anyway, no matter what...we are the winners, its our journey and our life, health, happiness that we care about. Keep it up SillyT. :D
  • IC June 26, 2016 | 15:31
    well done on the 1st week SillyT, I am sure with your attitude its just the 1st of a lifetime of weeks of being smoke free.

    wow that's a sad story about your parents, there but for the grace of God go I comes to mind.

    parents can be strange cant they, I often wondered how my old man knew how to push my buttons and then well I worked out that they installed them :)

    my understanding of most addicts is that there is pain there that's why the addiction to cover up the pain, so quitting for me has been a challenge as it has been for all of us I am sure.

    take away my medication in this case smoking and it does help with depression but in the mean time its killing me so really its not such a good anti depressant , sugar works too but turns and kicks my butt real fast.

    so dealing with my depression smoke free is a challenge , I heard this guy say once fish oil is the best anti depressant that there are no depressed Eskimos, so I take a lot of fish oil caps, working on exercising more releases serotonin feel good chemical in the brain.

    so its not an easy road and its work and sharing what I am doing and where I am at and what I have learnt in that it may help someone else is also a huge part of it for me and when I read what you wrote my heart just started to heal just a bit more and so thank you, and to all of you guys :)

    so I guess my point is this stopping smoking thing is a life changing event and also a healing of mind, body & spirit and that's something I need help with, and so you guys are part of that for me.

    I will say I teared up SillyT with joy and gratitude thanks hey !!

    IC
  • Lia June 26, 2016 | 16:10
    Hi. Just because someone is a grown up or a parent does not mean they have read the "manual" that came with the birth of their child, nor can dish out the best advice, not to mention encouragement. No disrespect intended to your Mother. Best not to go down the path of developing emphysema and having amputations. Not a good look. Not that anyone chooses this path. Just hang in there with the rest of us and be assured wi will be your best support system ever. Just realise the perhaps your dear Mother had no such support system ad you do on icanquit. It has served me well for 393 days of which day 1 was the hardest. You will find quit buddies who are on similar days to you. Either you will help them or they will help you along the way. Truly, wish you success. For once in your life, don't listen to Mum.
  • Miss lizzy June 26, 2016 | 16:56
    Well done Silly T, congrats on reaching your first week! I have reached 5 Weeks and 1 day today and am still finding it hard, but I am determined to overcome this addiction and stay cigarette free. I read your post and my main reason for quitting is so that I don't end up on a breathing machine or dying from emphysema, as I found out last year that I had the start of it? It is no way to live life, it's just a sad existence, as you would know and I don't want that for me. As to parents, well I have many issues there, and its funny I was doing some affirmations this arvo on realeasing the need for cigarettes in my life, and what came up was my need to destroy my self because my parents don't love me? And in reality that can't love me, they are incapable and that's sad, but what sadder is me spending my whole life punishing, hurting and destroying myself because of that. Very deep I know, but that's what smoking does it shoves everything down,until you can no longer breathe. So when you stop and get rid of the smokescreen, up it all comes, but the good thing is once it's up. It's out and then you can let it all go. I choose to love myself now and the most loving thing I can do is to never pick up a cigarette and to be a non smoker for the rest of my life. Lots of love to all you beautiful non smokers💏😍💏
  • SillyT, Northern Sydney June 26, 2016 | 17:24
    Thank you all so much, Lia , thank you for you're words of wisdom, and I get a lot of strength and power from positive attitudes of the likes of you, but you made have a good little chuckle to myself about the comment about don't listen to mum lol. From quitting I've never been so alive in how I see myself, it's blown me away of self discovery and the support from the I quit community is absolutely nothing more than amazing 😀
    And IC I'm here for you and to help as much as I can, together we can and have kicked this addiction, I'll pray for you and I'll ask for you to be watched over and to be given the strength and be sent a whole bunch of love, depression is a terrible thing to have, a few years back I suffered from depression, was put on medication and it somewhat helped but the cigarettes helped just as much, but now I'm over being depressed ( but every now and then it rears its ugly head ) with the help and support from my biggest fan my husband , I hope that you have that type of support at home, as you have it here, you have a huge community who are here to help, support guide and just listen and not judge, it's unconditional love and support, keep strong sweet heart, muwwwa 💋😀🐾😜
  • SillyT, Northern Sydney June 26, 2016 | 17:51
    Oh my goodness gracious miss Lizzy , you went and made me cry, as what you've said is exactly how I feel, but could not put how they've made me feel down on paper , but as my life unfolds I become my new best friend, I've taught myself how to love myself, or more to say allow , and it's sad how you're upbringing has everything to do with you're adult life, all you're hang ups , insecurities , habits ( good and bad) you're parents had a huge part into shaping you into the person you are today, but how one grows is to take the good parts of you're upbringing and the person you want to be , mash them together and bam it's the person you look at every single day.
    But since being a non smoker, as a person I have grown, I have learnt a lot about myself and I never expected that when I first quit, this website has saved me from cigarettes but more importantly it's making me into a better person, and some times I forgot when I make a post that I'm in a quit smoking website as it's far more than that, keep strong sweet heart, muwwwa xxxooo 💋🐾😀😜
  • SillyT, Northern Sydney June 26, 2016 | 17:53
    Thank you all so much, Lia , thank you for you're words of wisdom, and I get a lot of strength and power from positive attitudes of the likes of you, but you made have a good little chuckle to myself about the comment about don't listen to mum lol. From quitting I've never been so alive in how I see myself, it's blown me away of self discovery and the support from the I quit community is absolutely nothing more than amazing 😀
    And IC I'm here for you and to help as much as I can, together we can and have kicked this addiction, I'll pray for you and I'll ask for you to be watched over and to be given the strength and be sent a whole bunch of love, depression is a terrible thing to have, a few years back I suffered from depression, was put on medication and it somewhat helped but the cigarettes helped just as much, but now I'm over being depressed ( but every now and then it rears its ugly head ) with the help and support from my biggest fan my husband , I hope that you have that type of support at home, as you have it here, you have a huge community who are here to help, support guide and just listen and not judge, it's unconditional love and support, keep strong sweet heart, muwwwa 💋😀🐾😜
  • IC June 27, 2016 | 2:36
    thanks SillyT need all the prayers I can get :) and every day is a day for healing and I am doing that it takes time and working out what I need to do.

    you guys are my quit smoking family and understand what its like and that in its self is healing :)

    so yes I am miles better of that with my other out friend the fire stick , he wasn't such a good friend after all !!

    we all have to learn who we are as non smokers and that takes time and it can be hard some days but it sure is worth it !!

    I

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