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What is really stopping you? What is Fear?

Posted in Getting started 25 Apr 2021

Just seeing that lone cigarette in the package sent fear down our spine.

No milk, no coffee in the morning? Well it can wait unless it was for the baby. The kids can eat toast.

But smokes? Where's the car keys?

Nicotine rules. We would not let anyone else tell us , no demand us to do it's bidding. So why do we let it?

Most of us , perhaps all of us, have tried to quit smoking at some point and failed or you wouldn't be here. We failed and accepted that failure and accepted that as fate.

When your car won't start, do you just accept that and let in rot in the driveway? Of course not, you take it to a mechanic to fix. Or fix it yourself . Only you can fix your way of thinking though by learning.

That is why this site works . We learn. We are empowered. We start to learn and see things in the different way. We learn how to fix our thoughts. We see others succeed and we start to believe that we can too. We are all aware of the same enemy.

While nicotine is the enemy that has kept us addicted and the brainwashing that keeps us making excuses....what is the real reason that you haven't quit? FEAR

My post on acronyms for fear got a couple great responses. Thank you . Softly pointed out that FEAR is in all walks of life, not just a fear of quitting smoking.. Perhaps in moving, in furthering education, a change in career or a simple task.

An acronym fitting of fear.....FINDING EVERY ABSENT REASON.

We let our minds rule. Good and Bad.

Why are you afraid of the dark?

Why are you afraid of snakes? Did you get bit? Is there a reason or an excuse. An absent reason.

In the beginning I was afraid to touch a computer for fear of getting a virus. I still can't do simple things, because I don't find a need to, but when I did catch that virus causing the screen of death I found information on how to reinstall windows and saved my computer. We can DO things when we LEARN to. And when we lose the fear.

I had nothing to lose, so I learned and BELIEVED that I could save it. So I learned and lost that fear. It felt amazing to do something that I had never thought I could do. Now I know that I can do much more than I thought I ever could, if I want to. I could change my own oil, but I would rather learn other things. Maybe I am just lazy. It' ok to be lazy, at least it's a valid reason. BUT if I WANTED to I BELIEVE that i could.

Stop finding unfounded reasons to delay. Stop making excuses. Learn , Believe and Accel in all avenues of life. It feels great.

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  • Goodlands May 26, 2021 | 0:00
    Happiness, how are you doing? I know how much your comments meant to me during those first days, and I just shared some of your wisdom with someone else who was quitting. I am now 60 DAYS SMOKE FREE. And what a wonderful feeling that is.
  • Goodlands May 18, 2021 | 3:13
    Hello Happiness and the rest of the I Can Quit Community

    I really enjoy reading your stories and it's great to know that you are from Canada as well. There's an old saying in Bhuddism: when the student is ready the teacher appears. I'd been looking for some sort of Smokers Anonymous website when I was thinking of quitting smoking but no such luck and then I happened on this website which seems to support people around the world.

    Ironic how far you have to go sometimes to find people in your own back yard. I don't go to my gmail very often and today -- out of curiosity -- I went there and there were notifications from so many of you on your encouraging and supportive comments.

    This site has been a godsend to me as I count 53 days smoke free.
  • Bej May 08, 2021 | 22:07
    Just popped in for a moment and what a GREAT post! Thanks Happiness :))
  • Goodlands May 07, 2021 | 3:12
    Thank you Happiness for all your inspiring posts.
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW May 03, 2021 | 18:41
    I love that acronym too, it's brilliant matik_one!
    It's just as good as saf's NOPE.
    FEAR is: Forget Excuses Accept Reality
  • Happiness April 28, 2021 | 23:30
    I love it Matik-one

  • matik_one April 28, 2021 | 5:45
    Great post Happiness, it push me to think about fear again.. Fear is the main point why we fail before we even try.. fear might stopping us in every aspect of our life.. way how to defeat fear is knowladge.. knowladge is gained from eperience, ourself or others.. when you start to quit, you are afraid, because you don't know exactly what you will need to face to.. but once you are there, you will begin understand, and you'll stop fearing.. FEAR is here to be defeat.. FEAR can be: Forget Excuses Accept Reality
  • softly40, Mid North Coast April 26, 2021 | 7:56
    Great post Happiness
  • Gemma23 April 25, 2021 | 23:45
    Well said happiness
    Really do enjoy reading your stories.
    They help me change my way of thinking 💪💪

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