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Robn
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Mindset

Posted in Hints and tips 24 Apr 2021
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Hi All, we talk a lot on this site about mindset. When we decide to quit smoking....do you draw a line under that statement...or do you say I am going to try and quit? If you think I am going to try and quit...you are leaving the door open just a little....in case you fail. If you think this is it, I am not smoking anymore...it is more powerful and no room for failure. We really are how we think...be positive, and make smoking something you do not wish to continue doing. You buy them, you light them and you smoke them.......you are responsible, if you truly don’t want to smoke...you won’t.

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  • Nuts April 24, 2021 | 17:59
    Well said Robn. The right mindset is a powerful weapon
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW April 24, 2021 | 20:47
    Yes.
    There has to be an end.
    Let's forget or even delete, the thought of "your journey."
    This is a website to help Quit smoking. Not a newspaper to keep readers.
    If its important to stamp out Smoking forever?
    It's NOPE ..
    Not One Puff Ever!
  • Robn April 24, 2021 | 21:02
    Absolutely PuffNoMore, the decision we make to quit..is just that, final.
    Words like I hope I do it this time, I am going to try again.....are not a solid commitment to quitting. Sometimes this type of thinking sets people up to fail. If we could all think, that’s it, I am quitting right now.......no excuses, no second guessing, just a solid committment to this one final quit, I believe more people would succeed.. Of course these are just my thoughts....in the past I had “tried to quit” many times, but deep down I always knew that I could take it up again if it got too tough. And many many times it did...or did it ? Was I just looking for an excuse to give up on my quest. Because I wasn’t totally committed?
    Seems like that was the case to me. Once I changed my mindset and became very single minded about quitting...I did and I have never wanted to smoke since. Perhaps this will give some out there, something to ponder. Are you totally committed or are you just giving it a go?
  • Happiness April 24, 2021 | 21:52
    You are 100% correct Robn. By leaving that door even a crack open you are ensuring that you are not trapped.... but how are you trapped doing something that you WANT to do?
    When we book a trip to another country are we afraid? It will be new to us.
    No we anticipate it excitedly
    Millions of others have done it safely, so we do not worry.

    How is quitting smoking different?
    Once I believed I could quit. Others did. I could too
    The best thing I ever did. .!

    We do what we WANT to do, or we make an excuse. The exercise coach says....make up your mind and the body will follow. He is so right.
  • Robn April 24, 2021 | 22:04
    You are also correct Happiness....I wish everyone who wants to quit takes up this mindset. It is really easy once you understand how your thinking effects how successful you will be. You dont have to change anything in your daily rituals, everything can stay the same. You don’t have to work at staying quit, you don’t have to struggle with temptation.
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW April 25, 2021 | 0:33
    Yes Ladies. That thinking is a solid "mindset"
    There is always a time, when one's thinking becomes "complete".
    Before, we would wish, hope or try to stop smoking!
    Its the self belief and a realization of knowing your last smoke has happened. And you build on that distance day by day . Or week by week? Year by year with some of us.
    If you can have one occasional cigg once a month? Sure . But a larger majority cannot do it without ignition of a fully-blown addiction again!
    That's why, i-PuffNoMore.
  • softly40, Mid North Coast April 25, 2021 | 7:33
    Hi Robn, Great post! I agree with this "mindset". I do need to point out however that people who come to this website are feeling they do need support, in any way that has distorted their thinking. It is up to us to explain what this mindset is, because they are sometimes only thinking of the physical discomfort.

    It took me quite some time to "get" this mindset myself, simply because I had never had a forum to help me understand anything, and no one ever told me about the problems with "Nicotine" as being a drug which keeps you hooked either, indeed nothing on a cigarette packet says "Nicotine" keeps you coming back for more. This means research is the first thing to do regarding the "Mindset" and everyone should be allowed to explore their own belief system in relation to the mental aspect, with some input of resources to look into from each of us.

    Some newer ones come with just the physical problems, that they need to overcome, this still needs some clarification at the same time as the mental position. This is why I have always suggested NOPE (not one puff ever) in every post. (Mental/Physical) It is the mind that needs to understand the action.

    Our emotions are usually fixed and takes some time to change, this is what "Growth" is, it is usually called a journey in mainstream language. I taught young people and this is their language. They like to make it a story, in fact some do write in journals of their own private thoughts and discoveries, it is helpful for some but not for everyone. We are all different. NOPE (not one puff ever)
  • Robn April 25, 2021 | 10:02
    Hi Softly....yes you are also correct....there is no one size fits all. But at least this has started a conversation and new comers can read and take from it what connects with them. We go after what we want and quitting any addiction is no different, if we want it strongly enough we can get it. Mindset is everything as we are dictated to by our thoughts...it is practice,practice until it becomes the automatic response. We are all stronger than we think....so how we think is vital to achieving any goals we set ourselves.

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