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Red-67
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An interesting question.

Posted in Quit experiences 18 Mar 2021
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I saw this comment by PuffNoMore, and I quote..

"I am wondering when an addict to smoking nicotine, becomes free? Is it true once an addict, always an addict?

Is there a time limit to reach to be a declared Free? "

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Please understand, This is only my opinion, based on many years as a smoker, and now being able to look back, objectively..

Some do say, once a smoker, always a smoker, or once an addict etc. I firmly disagree with that in MOST cases. No doubt, some are more predisposed to alcoholism, or drug addiction, including nicotine, or even compulsive gambling. For those, yes, to stay free, they must practice staying away, or NOPE, because the addiction is always with them. But, most, I think, can break free of an addiction. Looking back, I now know I was addicted to smoking, and yes nicotine is a part of that. It's like some I have known, that drank beer all the time, and yet I would not call them alcoholics. They were addicted to drinking beer :) Like smoking, it is a habit, reinforced by a chemical, and in my own opinion, any habit that is allowed to alter, or run your life, is, by definition, an addiction. Once we open our mind to the truth of what we are doing, we can take control, and really break the addiction for good.

And, No, there is no time limit to being FREE.. You will simply know when there is no want, or need. I knew by the time I put out that last one, that I never wanted or needed another, even though I was still in chemical withdrawal for some time. A friend of mine quit many years ago, but still thinks like a smoker, and has to STAY quit. It is all in the mind, and how you deal with it..

Well, like I said, that is simply my opinion. Lets see yours :)

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  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW March 18, 2021 | 20:09
    Hi Red, I am officially thanking you and your input in my very early days of my Quit last year. Im still going strong over 400 days ago. Also hope we get some other peoples (members) opinions on the subject we raised here.
    Its my birthday and my football team is on TV, so forgive me if i go AWAL TONIGHT.
    YIPPEE.
  • Lia March 18, 2021 | 21:48
    Hi Red-67. Good to hear from you. I am almost 6 years quit and I agree with lots of your sentiments. Nevertheless, although I won't light up, I believe I was once a smoker and always will be. Just choose not to smoke. I remember how "good" I felt when I lit a cigarette. Any excuse would do. Ever heard a real non smoker say that they would like to light up? Me neither. They wouldn't have a clue. We quitters just have to forget how we ever enjoyed the experience. I keep thinking how proud I am of myself for the longevity of the decision to quit and wouldn't dare to err. Not tempted to test my mortality. Living and breathing easy is such a pleasure. Enjoy your journey, Red.
  • Robn March 18, 2021 | 21:56
    Hi Red, hope life is being good to you......
    I feel that it really is in your mind set.....some have given up reluctantly, maybe cost, maybe health issues etc and I think these people will always have to work to stay quit. But if you gave up on your own terms, got sick of being on the round about, simply wanted to change your lifestyle etc I think once free it is easy to never want to go there ever again. I can honestly say there is nothing about that habit/addiction that looks attractive to me now.....but it did take me over forty years to realise that...lol. Bit of a slow learner I guess. Stay well my friend xx
  • Happiness March 18, 2021 | 23:49
    Hi friends. It only took 40 years for us to realize the truth Robyn. Back in that time most of us probably realized we were "hooked", and found it painful to give up something that we didn't understand. We only knew that without feeding the monster, we could not enjoy our life.
    Even today, those cravings can be relentless, but we can assure people that they don't last......I had heard that some who had quit for 20 years still had cravings. I was not going to live like that!!!! No way!!!

    Today, with forums, we can bring things into perspective. We can undo the ?brainwashing?. We can let people know that it is lies fed by big tobacco companies and smokers alike. It CAN be EASY to quit.

    The fear of dying because of smoking is not nearly as powerful to a smoker as the FEAR to live with the dreaded CRAVINGS forever. Who WOULD choose to ? That is the problem....FEAR.

    Nicotine is dispelled from our bodies speedily and it is the psychological need or habit to light up that is the longest to overcome. Accept and be proud that you can break the addiction . When we do this willingly rather than pressured and resentful we are happy. When we think we are missing it we are sad and miss ii even more.

    I quit, happily , easily and am not plagued by thoughts of smoking. Yes , an occassional thought or dream may occur, but we brush them aside and continue our day. They don't impact our decision if we don't dwell on them.

    Simply put, once quitting smoking you can feel like you still need determination and fight (willpower), or you can relax and enjoy life and your decision to be a non-smoker and put smoking where it belongs....in the past.
  • Red-67 March 19, 2021 | 5:30
    Lia; Yes, I agree. IF you still have that thought, like to light up, or I'd love a smoke, then yes, you are still a smoker. Some of us really KNOW we are free, and there is no want, need, or thought of just one, or just one puff. I WAS a smoker for way too long. Now I am a real non smoker, and have been for nearly 4 years.
    For the new quitters out there, it is a choice, and it can be much easier than you think, to just walk away from the slavery, and embrace becoming a non smoker :)
  • Johnnie, South Eastern Sydney March 23, 2021 | 21:08
    Hi Red and all my old and new quitters. Red i agree with you to some extent concerning cravings but i disagree with the statement once a smoker always a smoker. I think however that every individual's journey is different........It is the mindset that leads to relapses. I been quit for 5yrs and yes i do sometimes crave a smoke especially after dinner. However if i am out and in the midst of passive smoking i start to cough and curse cigarettes.......that odd craving then disappears instantly. I smoked for 53yrs.....why would i take it up again. I have learnt to live without cigarettes. A pack of cigarettes is between $30 and $45 where i am.....i could'nt afford to smoke. Red...it all rests with the seriousness of the individual if he / she wants to give up. Nice to be back again and having a chat. Cheers.
  • WendyOhNo March 24, 2021 | 6:56
    That’s a tough one to answer. I don’t consider myself a smoker anymore. It’s been almost five years for me. I quit considering myself a smoker on the first day of my quit. I’m not an addict either. I was an addict. That also ceased on the day I quit smoking. A lot of people need to recognize the power of addiction and for them, saying they are an addict who chooses not to smoke works. It doesn’t for me. I know that I was once an addict. I no longer behave like an addict which is why I don’t consider myself to be one.
  • Safe2017 March 24, 2021 | 7:13
    For the past few years I've been feeling complete and normal without cigs. No desire to light up whatsoever. However, my strength lies in knowing my weakness and my weakness has always been the first puff that always led me to a full blown addiction again. NOPE is my motto.
  • Red-67 March 24, 2021 | 8:27
    That is sort of the point.. Why would there be that one puff ? Only if there was still a smoker in there.. :) Like Johnnie said, we are all different. Some may be smokers that don't, and some will embrace becoming a non smoker, and escape the addiction altogether.
  • Safe2017 March 25, 2021 | 2:43
    Red, In the past I took that first puff to prove to myself that I had my addiction beat. And in my mind I did have pit beat but in reality NOPE.
  • Happiness August 02, 2021 | 10:38
    I would have to say that I am a nicoholic. I believe that I would be addicted and dependent on nicotine much faster than someone starting out. Perhaps even I after almost 1000 days could be addicted with as little as one puff even with a strong mindset. I don't intend to test it either! I love my new status and freedom whatever you should call me. i. Whats better is that I have no desire to smoke. Why would l?

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