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Jessfreeof
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17/08/2020
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I need help

Posted in Hints and tips 21 Sep 2020
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Hi everyone it's jess I need help I am on day 55 and have been having lots of slips it at the point where it's to many I have just gone a purchased a packet of smokes.

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  • Julyrose1 September 28, 2020 | 2:52
    Hi Jess, just wanted to say that I completely understand. I am in the same boat, I had quit back in late April and managed to be entirely smoke free for 6 weeks (even during a horrible bereavement) before starting slowly to backslide, with one or 2 over the course of a few weeks before some more bad news in July tipped me back onto regular smoking, about 1 a day and since late August its escalated and I am basically back to square one. I have plucked up the courage today to get back on here and start getting my mind back to the right place to get me quit again. I would say my biggest mistake was letting my self care and good habits slide, like walking, baking, yoga etc I'd say both of us need to take the time for that self care, focusing efforts onto new things and breaking the dependency on nicotine. As an outsider, reading ure previous posts I could feel your determination and pride at being smoke free, I believe you will get there again. And in turn it is helping me to see that I can do the same. Good luck!
  • New chapter September 23, 2020 | 4:50
    Head up Jess,go again,Have a chat with yourself,give yourself a strong platform to stop,write down your reasons for stopping in your phone,quotes from people who have inspired you,and read them when you have a weak moment,personally when I’m feeling a bit fed up I log on to this site and read all of the posts,it gives me strength,
    Good luck you got this😊x
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW September 22, 2020 | 9:03
    Good on you for taking all pieces of advice! I had to take stock of my feeble excuses. I took a hardline of my routines and habits for awhile. I can understand the difference from wanting to stop smoking and wanting freedom from the drug etc, BUT, I no longer could afford the stupid things!
    So. I HAD to stop buying them and hence stopped smoking them. I have had long periods of being a true non-smoker years ago before I discovered this site. 2 years in my forties. 2.5 years in my thirties. And just one or three after my semi-professional sporting career in the 80's with a few cones also.
    But, now in my fifties. I found myself lacking the control or restraint to dabble with an occasional cig, so I had to stay the course of total abstinence.
    NOPE. Not One Puff Ever is the only way for me.
    I believe its Allen Carrs method too.
    You'll win, when your ready!
  • jessfreeof, Northern NSW September 22, 2020 | 8:00
    Thank you so much everyone for the support and encouragement. I will be taking all of the advice given I will take a look at the video mentioned I have organized getting the Allen carr book and will be taking this quit smoking business even more seriously. I will be borrowing the nope not even one mantra. Slips always take me back to smoking I can not even have one. I will be starting day 1 tomorrow. I really thought i had it nailed this time how wrong i was. I will certainly learn from my errors and restart tomorrow.
  • softly40, Mid North Coast September 22, 2020 | 7:45
    Hi Jess, from my experience with slip-ups, which were quite a few, the thing I did wrong was to explain it away in my mind eg: "you can take it or leave it" philosopy, this worked to a degree until I gradually ended up where I started from.

    I went to many websites for help, and found one that resonated with me called "How to grow to be a happy smoker" by NASIA DAVOS its on u-tube. You will find your emotional pull in one or two aspects of this video. I also read Alan Carr but the video seemed to do the trick for me, whereby I ended up with the Mantra NOPE "Not one puff ever" and have stuck with this ever since you can develop your own Mantra but its the permanent one you are aiming for not the "I can take it or leave it" one.
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW September 21, 2020 | 21:33
    Get off the merry-go-round my fellow ICanQuit buddy. Search for any reason, reset, Find a mindset that suits your philosophy.
    Personally, I swallowed all of my slip-ups as a learning curve. Then, Allen Carrs book resonated with me. I was ready halfway through his book. I took a few more days to finish the smoking and finish his book. It wasn't easy, BUT, I knew my smoking days was over!
    I had to recite in my mind. I said, I Don't Smoke - NO MATTER WHAT.
    Other mantra's are worthy too!
    You;ll win, when your ready!
  • Happiness September 21, 2020 | 20:55
    Don't do it Jess! You have been doing so well. Have you read Allan Carr that I have a link to? It is free and makes so much sense, is easy reading and makes the quit easier for lots of people. Find how to make smoking something you want to quit and feel proud of doing. Stop feeling like you are depriving yourself and look at how much you will gain.....Time, health, money, confidence and respect. .......and the list goes on. You had your reasons, what changed?
  • Gemma23 September 21, 2020 | 10:17
    And the funny is I work in a supermarket and the smokes are right there if I want them
    And I don't just no craving for it is there. And even so the price of them filthy things are getting really expensive and that's another reason I will not buy them. I no there's lots of reason why we should not smoke. But gosh it's hard to fight that little monster in the head but we can as many of people of this site have become smoke free.

    Like i said it's at my friends house I get the cravings. So I no my trigger
  • Gemma23 September 21, 2020 | 10:14
    Just keep them with you doesn't mean you need to smoke them.
    Tell yourself you have the choice to smoke them but you make the discussion not to smoke it but it's there if you want it.
    I think the trick is tell yourself well you still have the right to smoke when you want but you make the choice not to smoke.
    If we tell ourselves we can't smoke. I think we crave it more then we start to feel deprivation that we can't have it.
    Need to accept we can have it but we will not not have because we do not want to be smokers.
    You where doing so well.
    I will not buy a packet if I do I no I'm screwed in so many ways.
    Don't be to hard just get another date in mind and prepare yourself again.
    For the withdrawal of quitting
    Least you will no what to expect next time round.
    Never quit quitting we can do this 😁😊🚭 by Xmas I will be 6 months smoke free that it my aim right now is to get as far as Xmas and celebrate with my partner and friends that I did and will do it even with a slip up I will not let this bring me back down
    We have to.work really hard to beat the addiction.
    My partner was a smoker and give up just like that never ever looked back never lit another smoke.
    Some reason it does not bother him atal and that was 2 years ago.

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