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Kirk88
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My first week

Posted in Staying quit 25 Aug 2019
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Today marks 1 week smoke free. Day 2 was almost unbearable and day 5 wasn't much better.

I don't seem to struggle through the day much but come afternoon when I'm doing homework/dinner time rush and all my mum stuff I find it really hard. I miss having an excuse and a reminder to take 5 mins to myself to stop my temper from exploding. I get frustrated with a lack of coping mechanisms for those of us that just can't get away.

Today my mind feels foggy and I can't concentrate but I have noticed that my wheeze is almost completely gone and I don't have to draw a massive breath halfway through singing nursery rhymes with my toddler.

Financially I can't afford a typical celebration of rewarding myself with a material possession but I will be taking my kids to the park today for a picnic and I will take great joy in knowing that when I say it's time to leave it will be because it is actually time to leave and not just me saying that because I want a smoke. Right now the thing that stops me from caving in to my addiction is knowing the hardest part is over and not wanting to ever have to put my kids through that first week of grumpy mummy ever again.

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  • Joze, Murrumbidgee August 25, 2019 | 7:51
    Well done. Thanks for sharing. It is only day 4 for me and I was having such a strong craving after breakfast and this post helped ⚘
  • Kirk88 August 25, 2019 | 8:16
    Joze, congratulations on being a non smoker for 4 days that's amazing. Keep it up. Before we know it we will celebrating a whole year.
  • Happiness August 25, 2019 | 14:35
    It seems you have found a great reason to stay motivated Kirk88, to never have to repeat day 1 again. Congratulations on a week down and well on your way to beating this addiction. You may not have gotten the wardrobe you wanted immediately but anticipation is another driving force. Your health may not have been a first consideration, but wheezing at your age and breathlessness are definitely reasons to take action.
    Smoking was a time waster but also interupted our time we should have focused our attention fully like school plays, concerts and events. Did you ever really enjoy them when in the back of your mind you are anxious for an opportunity to sneak a smoke. Having to leave the water park, beach and other public venue in search of a smoking area was a huge pain that I do not miss. I am glad that you enjoyed your picnic and starting to realize the benefits. Letting go, realizing you are really losing nothing, but gaining so much more really does make the endeavor easier.

    You're doing great Kirk 88. You will reach the year milestone and wonder what took you so long to see the light. One day at a time, and every one getting easier.....just remember one thing. NOPE. Not One Puff!
  • Robn August 25, 2019 | 17:43
    Well done Kirk, you are well on your way. One big benefit for your family is that your children will know that you are living in the moment with them and that they have your full attention, which is awesome for them. You can’t buy that kind of reward. You will find ways to reward yourself that don’t cost anything in dollar terms. You will have more time to be better organised on a daily basis, so when the kids are in bed in the evening, run yourself a nice hot bath and just relax and reflect on how far you have come. Paint your nails, invite a friend over and share some girly time. Start a hobby that you will enjoy. Before you know it your life will be so full of the benfits of quitting that you really will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. We all say we will reward ourselves or distress by having a smoke....well it isn’t a reward because it doesn’t do anything good for you. Mindset is everything, learn to hate them for what they have taken from you, time, money,self esteem, feeling ashamed......they gave you nothing good. One day at a time...if you get through one day at a time you will succceed in kicking them out of your life. I bet mummy smells really nice to cuddle now.
  • Robn August 25, 2019 | 17:45
    Well done Kirk, you are well on your way. One big benefit for your family is that your children will know that you are living in the moment with them and that they have your full attention, which is awesome for them. You can’t buy that kind of reward. You will find ways to reward yourself that don’t cost anything in dollar terms. You will have more time to be better organised on a daily basis, so when the kids are in bed in the evening, run yourself a nice hot bath and just relax and reflect on how far you have come. Paint your nails, invite a friend over and share some girly time. Start a hobby that you will enjoy. Before you know it your life will be so full of the benfits of quitting that you really will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. We all say we will reward ourselves or distress by having a smoke....well it isn’t a reward because it doesn’t do anything good for you. Mindset is everything, learn to hate them for what they have taken from you, time, money,self esteem, feeling ashamed......they gave you nothing good. One day at a time...if you get through one day at a time you will succceed in kicking them out of your life. I bet mummy smells really nice to cuddle now.
  • softly40, Mid North Coast August 26, 2019 | 8:47
    You always end up on a high note Kirk88 no matter whether you are coping well or not. Keep it that way, all you need now is to start the day on a high note too, you can do this with the right thoughts in your mind before you go to sleep. So happy you are choosing not to smoke, and grumpy mummy will be no more soon. Do what you are doing, live well and take care of yourself, then the kids will benefit.

    Well done you are doing great.
  • Happiness August 27, 2019 | 14:58
    So proud of you for stopping yourself from buying a pack last night. I am glad the forum was here for you to know you are not alone and very understood. Today is another day closer to winning girl, keep thinking positive and you will get through it. Hugs.

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