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need support to stay quit

Posted in Getting started 06 Jun 2019

I just joined this site and am not sure if there will be a response.

I smoked for 50 years. I loved smoking. I got sick as I have in the past and needed meds to help with what was probably bronchitis. I suddenly found my self unale to breathe and ended up in the hospital with pnemonia for 4 days. I quit immediately. this was april 18. I am having a hard time staying off smoking, don't want to start but miss it. I know if I smoke the first cigarette will be awful and I'll smoke more. I'll get dizzy and smell and then have to . quit again.

Just need support to stay off cigarettes.


I'm in the SF bay area California

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  • Happiness June 06, 2019 | 2:18
    Hello Auspark and welcome. The key to stop missing it is to change your perception of it. Stop romanticizing it. It is a vile evil addiction. Define those three words...vile
    foul, nasty, unpleasant, bad, disagreeable, horrid, horrible, dreadful, abominable, atrocious, offensive, obnoxious, odious, unsavory, repulsive, off-putting, repellent, revolting, repugnant, disgusting, distasteful, loathsome, hateful, nauseating, sickening;
    Evil: wicked, bad, wrong, morally wrong, wrongful, immoral, sinful, ungodly, unholy, foul, vile, base, ignoble, dishonorable, corrupt, iniquitous, depraved, degenerate, villainous, nefarious, sinister, vicious, malicious, malevolent, demonic, devilish, diabolic, diabolical, fiendish, dark, black-hearted;


    They do not list nicotine as an addiction, yet it is just as addictive as drugs and alcohol

    As you will learn by reading , nicotine is out of your body in just 72 hours. It is the living without "our friend" that leaves a void that needs filling. It won't need filled once you stop desiring it.
    Learn and accept why you should be so grateful that it is out of your life. Acceptance or Mindset is the key. You did not quit smoking. You did not give up anything. You CHOSE TO BE A NON-SMOKER.
    Retrain your mind and be free.
  • Happiness June 06, 2019 | 2:33
    Our answers may be of more help if we knew whether you are nicotine free or on an NRT. As long as nicotine is in your body, the nrt can cause side-effects and cravings, simply because your body wants more nicotine. Once free of nicotine it is all psychological (same feeling or cravings which are just thoughts) Filling the void with breathing or other exercise, phone call etc divert the attention away until the craving fades away.
    Why not get off the nicotine, and just accept that you are alive and well and have found the path to a new a better life. So many good changes and benefits to come. They will astound you.
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 2:39
    Thank you, you make a lot of sense.
    I think I am off nicotine already - and there are many benefits already too, like inhaling deeply without it hurting or without coughing.
    I will work on changing my perspective
  • Happiness June 06, 2019 | 2:52
    You wouldn't happen to have played Poker Stars today and had a conversation with a player about this site?
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 3:11
    No I dont know what poker stars is and haven't played it or had a conversation with anyone other than you

  • Red-67 June 06, 2019 | 3:57
    The problem is, you quit because you had to, not because you wanted to. The nicotine addiction, is gone in about 21 days, from the last supply. You are still missing them, out of the illusion that there was something good there. We are, or were, addicted to smoking, not just nicotine. As soon as you make up your mind, that you just don't WANT them, you can be free, for good..
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 8:35
    OMG you are so right! I know that's true.
    I need help in wanting to quit - in not wanting them any more.

  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 8:39
    I quit cold turkey - to answer an earlier question
    Not taking lozenges or patches, nothing like tht
    Just pistacio nuts and popsicles like crazy - and just food! UGH
  • Red-67 June 06, 2019 | 9:04
    Allow yourself to see the truth, of being a smoker. The money, the time, the fact that we let, that little tube of tobacco run our life. Not to mention the health risk. Once you can see through the smoke cloud, and see just how stupid smoking made us, it can be easy to quit. I think the average smoke is 5 to 7 minutes. At 6 minutes, I spent around 36000 to 40000 hours of my life sucking on a cigarette, and never really thought about it, or even really thought about quitting.. We don't really have to STAY quit. We just have to REALLY quit, once, and stop thinking like a smoker.. Then, you simply never want another one. :)
  • Happiness June 06, 2019 | 9:09
    There are lots of reason to want to quit smoking and become a non-smoker. Read and learn. Knowledge is power. Acceptance is liberating.
  • Red-67 June 06, 2019 | 9:12
    Oh, I had my last smoke, Feb, 16, 2017, and yes, I THOUGHT I smoked because I liked to, and wanted to, but, that's how it works. Nobody, in their right mind, would, love to, waste good money, and time, to shove a bunch of poison into their lungs. Right ??
  • Safe2017 June 06, 2019 | 9:12
    Your desire to quit has to be greater than your desire to smoke. Mindset is the key. I smoked for over 40 years, always believed that I enjoyed smoking too much to quit but I did quit. You can too. Stay strong and good luck.
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 9:46
    Well, when you put it that way - hahh
    Yes, I agree. Maybe if others told me why they quit.
    I know the obvious, but knew those reasons for over 40 years and it didn't matter. Just shocking to me now.
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 9:48
    Thanks for the vote of confidence and advise Safe2017. Why did you quit.
    Many are saying mindset is key. What do you mean by mindset? Commitment to being a non smoker?
  • Happiness June 06, 2019 | 10:22
    The Mindset is in the positive and knowledgeable state of mind to enter into this challenge best armed to win.
    Knowing yourself and your relationship with the cigarette.
    How you became addicted and how that can be broken.
    How cigarettes have done nothing for you and never will.
    Needing to want to quit smoking more than wanting to and realizing that you are giving up nothing.
    Accepting this journey to better your life.
    Most of all taking control, and the best step is to think positive and BELIEVE that you too can become a happy non-smoker.

    No one can put it all together like Allan Carr. A must read at any stage of your journey. I read it after I quit, although his seminars people atttended and found the desire to be non-smokers and lay down their cigarettes.

    Me, I quit and had no cravings after the first 72 hrs while i rid of the nicotine in my body. I found it very easy to quit because I WANTED TO MORE THAN I WANTED TO SMOKE. That is what this forum can do. I did post his book. Click on my name and scroll through the stories .

    You too can find the MINDSET!
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 10:28
    I understand, thank you!
  • Safe2017 June 06, 2019 | 11:04
    You got it auspark. By mind set I mean that you want to keep telling yourself “I am not going to inhale even a single puff because I am no longer a smoker” while you brain is telling you “Just One puff is not really going back to smoking but if I inhale just once I will feel so much better “. And there are a number of similar variations playing in your head to get you to have a smoke but you have to revert back to NOPE concept - not one puff ever again; otherwise, one puff will lead to the next and next and next and before you know it you are back to being a full time smoker. When I reached a point of really wanting a smoke I imagined that there was an off valve somewhere between my mouth and my lungs that I turned it off and wasn’t letting the smoke in. Also I drank lot of water and even had pinch myself or deeply inhale air imagining that it was a cigarette smoke just to change my focus. Walking also helped a lot. I recall that it wasn’t a pleasant experience for several weeks after quitting but it gets easier and easier as the time marches on. Good luck and stay strong because once you get this addiction beat you will feel free and it’s a great feeling. But you always have to be vigilant because in a moment of weakness just one puff will take you right back where you started. That’s from personal experience. I cheering for you auspark.
  • Safe2017 June 06, 2019 | 11:23
    P.S. I quit because smoking became a drag. I was tired of this addiction driving my life. For example, two cigarettes left in the pack in the evening and I had to drive to the store to replenish my supply of smokes or paranoia would hit “Oh my gosh what am I going to do if I run out of smokes”. Also, when traveling I would have as many smokes as I could before going into the airport but as soon as I got passed the point of no return I always wanted to have the one smoke I couldn’t have and I couldn’t get out outside any longer. Morning smoker’s coughs we’re getting annoying and I could see that it was only going to get worse. Stink on the top of that wasn’t appealing all of a sudden. Last bu nut least the cost of cigs was getting prohibitively expensive as far as I was concerned. And I also wanted to prove to myself that I can beat my addiction and become free and independent again. These are about all the reasons I can think of why I quit. You must have your own reasons that maybe similar to mine but if you are here they must be important enough for you to quit.
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 12:48
    Thanks so much Safe 2017 (is that name bc you quit in 2017?).

    I really appreciate the time you're taking to respond to me - and everything you say really helps alot.

    Thank you!
  • Safe2017 June 06, 2019 | 13:13
    Yes, “2017” is because I quit in 2017 and “Safe” is because this is my last quit and I am playing it Safe. No more taking chances having just one puff that derailed my last two serious quits. One quit lasted just over 2 years and the other one lasted just over one year. This my third and final quit and I’d rather be safe than sorry. Good luck.
  • Happiness June 06, 2019 | 13:42
    So sorry your post didn't get as much response as you

    I quit smoking because I was diagnosed borderline copd and my husbands mom died of exema . It was not a pretty sight, and I did not want him to have to see me suffer that way. I didn't want my kids to witness it either. I wasn't particularly fond of going in that manner either.

    I found the strength to quit by joining a quit line forum like this. IcanQuit is the best one though because you can actually communicate with each other if you really want to. I hope this forum can do for you what it did for me.
  • auspark June 06, 2019 | 14:11
    LOL - the feedback has been amazing and I really appreciate it!I'm so glad I found this site -

    Yes, I think you made the right decision. Im supposed to go see a pulmonologist bc of the pnemonia I just had.
    i will do that soon, I'm kinda nervous though, but also need to know what's up.

    Thanks again for your time!

  • Nuts June 06, 2019 | 21:12
    Kick em to the curb mate. You dont need them. Listen to the wonderful people on this site, and you cant go wrong. We believe that you can do it
  • Red-67 June 07, 2019 | 4:04
    I hope you were nowhere near all the fires.. My S.I.L. is in CA. I am a South Mississippi redneck :) The good kind. Not the backward cap wannabe, hick, punk..
    I did not quit for money, or health reasons. One day, I just happened to see a young couple, 20s, or so, coming out of a restaurant. You know the drill. Can't wait to get out and light up. As I was driving by, I was thinking,, How stupid do you have to be, to start smoking, knowing what we know now... Then, I looked at the one, in my hand, that I was smoking,, and, like a flash bulb, or a brick falling on my head, I thought, HOW STUPID DO YOU HAVE TO BE TO KEEP SMOKING ?? That became the why, and the how, for me to quit. I had 3 packs, and swore to myself, never to buy another one. It only took 2, to taper off, over the next couple weeks, then cold turkey. I kept a pack, lighter, and ashtray, right where they always were. Did not change any routine, or dodge triggers. I went out to have my coffee, or bourbon, as always.. My wife did not know I had quit for 3 weeks :) Sure, there were a few weeks of physical withdrawal, like most, tired, moody, depressed, etc.. But, I had already made it something I NEVER WANTED again. I simply did not want to be a smoker..
    You got this.. No reason to ever want another one. Enjoy the freedom. Pat yourself on the back, for breaking away from your slave driver.. :) Learn to be, and think, like a non smoker..
  • auspark June 07, 2019 | 9:09
    Thanks Nuts - Hahhh - I just can't believe how NICE everyone is.
    I'm so thankful to everyone for responding to my post and questions. Truly, all of you will definitely help me through this, no doubt.

  • auspark June 07, 2019 | 9:13
    Oh, Red-67 you're in the US too?
    Are there people from all over the world on this site?

    I am about 45 minutes south of the fires that were in Sonoma, and about 3 hours south of the fires that leveled the city of Paradise ( amazing the name of the town that was destroyed>!)

    But, ashes were all over my car and in the area for weeks, was creepy, and the sunsets! BRIGHT RED sun setting.

    I love you story, so true, we don't even realize what we are doing, but see things so much more clearly in others.

    I did stop coffee, bc I was afraid I'd HAVE to have a cigarette.
    I had some yesterday and it was no problem, no cigarette and didn't really like the coffee.
    I'd smoked with a cup or ten of coffee daily for nearly 50 years. I still cant believe I smoked for so long.

    I hope others send their story about quitting.

    What's the red-67 mean?
  • auspark June 07, 2019 | 9:17
    I had 5 cartons and three packs when I quit. Over 500 dollars, but that was that - my kids got them out of the house. They're all sooo happy and proud and have wanted me to stop smoking all of their lives. GOD
    I was talking with my son the other day. I got up and went to get a popsicle and my son stepped aside to let me by. When I got to the freezer my son said, " Oh,wow. I thought you were going to go outside and smoke. That's always what you would have done before. I'm so glad you are getting a popsicle instead."
  • Red-67 June 08, 2019 | 3:05
    I have seen several locations, but most are Aussies, if that's how you say it.. :)
    It is just short for Redneck, and I was 67 when I came here.. First thing to pop into my head, when sighing up :)
  • BethP June 10, 2019 | 11:33
    I am also in the states. Pacific Northwest. Tomorrow will be the 6 month anniversary of the day I had my last cigarette. My only problem these days is the vivid dreams I have had about lighting one up. At least they're only dreams.
    So happy for all of us! What a great decision we have made!
  • auspark June 10, 2019 | 14:54
    Hi BethP.
    Six months, wow, that's great
    I bet you were happy when you woke up and realized it was a dream - or nightmare, so happy you haven't smoked!

    Yes, great decision and so proud of everyone,

    Everyone's stories are so interesting to me, why they quit, how long, what helped through the hard parts etc.

    Thanks for writing.

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