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Cigarettes are not my friend

Posted in Getting started 31 May 2019

Hello, I’m Joy and I have been a daily smoker for the last 26 years. I am 38 so basically my whole life. I am overweight, unhealthy, and barely sociAlize. It’s to the point where I don’t even do things with my kids. It’s very sad. I don’t want to exist! I want to live! I want to be able to say “ I don’t smoke” and not feel like I am missing something in my life. I also have daily anxiety that I’m going to have a heart attack or stroke. I want to live a full life with my children and hopefully someday grandchildren.

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  • Safe2017 May 31, 2019 | 10:50
    Joyousvibe welcome to the group. Your nick says it all and you don’t need to punish yourself for being a smoker for now. However, being a non smoker is way to go and you are ready to become one. Many people who quit successfully had read Allen Carr’s book “the easy way to quit smoking”. Try it. Cigarettes are your false “best” friend in a one way detrimental relationship. You can do it and the reason I say you can is because you have all the right reasons to quit. Trust me - if I could, you can too. Good luck.
  • Nuts May 31, 2019 | 11:52
    Hi joy and welcome. You have made the first step. Well done. You need to be strong and determined. If you really mean it, then it becomes easy. A lot of people choose cold turkey, which is the best way. Others choose a nrt. I used patches and found it very easy. You have to do what is right for you. Smoking is a habit, as well as an addiction and you need to break that habit. Once you have done that it becomes easier. If we only smoked when we really craved one, we wouldnt smoke much at all. You can do it
  • Happiness May 31, 2019 | 14:14
    Truer words were never spoken. Cigarettes are not your friend. When the nico monster comes begging to be fed remember that. He is not a stray dog to feel sorry for, not something you want hanging around. Turn it away and it will leave you alone very quickly. Quitting can be surprisingly easy with the right attitude and mindset.
    Read and Learn as much as you can . Knowledge IS power!
  • softly40, Mid North Coast June 03, 2019 | 14:42
    Nicotine= BAD Friend create a new and happier friend for yourself and call it by name this might help your nickname suggests a new Friend name, when you get fed up with that, create another name, just remember that Nicotine is the most deadly and addictive substance you can choose, not good for anything but the rubbish.

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