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Thinking about my aunt with cancer

Posted in Staying quit 22 Feb 2018

Hi all,

I haven't had a ciggie since Saturday night. Really craving them tonight. But I am determined to stay off them because I just think of my poor auntie and my uncle as well. My aunt who has suffered so much with cancer, extensive surgery to get rid of stomach cancer, chemo, suicidal ideation and now she has extensive gum disease and she has to have all her teeth removed. She is only 64.

She was always my young, pretty, fit glamorous aunty. But she was a pack a day smoker and in her late 30's she started to drink alot as well. She is now 41 kgs, and thinks she won't see her grandchildren grow up. She adores them. Such a tragedy, she has been a great mum, a great aunt and doting grandma. I am not over exaggerating, she looks terrible and looks terrified all the time. She just wouldn't stop smoking.

We all need to stop smoking and do whatever we can to remain stopped. Putting up with cravings, is alot easier that the very real possiblity of developing serious cancers and illnesses.

Oh, my uncle is dying of emphaseyma. He is stuck in a nursing home and can't go out visiting at all without oxygen. I was told a while ago, his daughters, my cousins, cry when they visit because he is very distressed not being able to catch his breath.

So, I think of aunty Ron and uncle Paul, and my older friend who also smoked, and how painfully sick they are. I know the cravings will eventually go. I will be patient. These cravings will not beat me this time. I can quit and I will quit.

Good luck everyone. Stay strong and think of the benefits and all the things you have to look forward to.

Thanks for all the hints and inspiring stories. Thanks so much.



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  • Safe2017 February 22, 2018 | 19:45
    Liz, you just listed every reason to stay quit. Thanks for sharing. Alll the best!!!
  • Red-67 February 23, 2018 | 6:32
    Things like this, are the very reason I say,, Smoking makes you stupid..
    Most of us thought about what we ate or drank. Watched our weight, tried to stay active, and eat healthy,, All the while stuffing, Acetone, Acetic Acid, Ammonia, Arsenic, Benzene, Butane, Cadmium, Carbon Monoxide, Formaldehyde, Hexamine, Lead, Naphthalene, Methanol, Tar, Toluene, and of course, Nicotine, into our system. DUH.. And that is just the short list..
    So Liza, if you really dwell on all this, and think past the smoke cloud, cravings, or wanting, will fade away.. When you start to think like a non smoker, it gets much easier. You can do this :)
  • Sharn, Mid North Coast February 23, 2018 | 11:13
    Hey, your posts make me stronger and more determined. I really feel for your family going through this. Seems this will be my two sisters in a few years. They are both already suffering, they both drink & smoke way too much. They were both so beautiful in their younger days and are now showing the signs on their face & bodies of too much neglect. We need to look after ourselves, we were put on this earth as a gift we should not selfishly slowly end it we should live it to it's fullest potential. You are doing the right thing Liza, keep it up, you don't want to end up there!

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