for my kids <3
im 23 years old and a mother to 2 beautiful boys aged 3 and 5. my kids father isnt around so i am all they have, the other day i went to woolworths to buy a packet of smokes i had my 5 yr old with me. He asked me what i was doing my reply, buying smokes, he looks up at me with the saddest face and says "mummy please dont smoke anymore i dont want you to go tohospital and die" i nearly started crying. At 5 yrs old i did not think he understood the dangers of smoking but i was very wrong. his words cut me like a knife and after i thought about it i realised that if they lose me they have no one so here i am on this website making the decision to quit for my kids. they need their mumma and i dont want to miss out on seeing them grow up. IM GOING TO DO IT
Hi,
My son also asked me to stop smoking, cried and everything, broke my heart. Instead of an ash tray next to me now is my favourite photo of him and I - it does help. I am on day 9 (after about 3 slip ups) it's not easy but then I think I am doing this in order to be around for longer for my son...good luck!
You don't know how lucky you guys are. When I was faced with having to give up smoking (emphysema) or die I looked to my 21 year old son (I was also a single Mom since he was 2)for support, and love, and I really wanted him to give me a reason to live - and I never got it. He told me he doesn't discuss feelings and if I want any kind of emotional support I must get it elsewhere. And I thought we had an extra special close relationship. BTW - I am day 27
Don't be too disheartened leighdo13 - he is a 21 year old boy - I remember being 21 (girl) I would never have told my mother openly that I loved her or that I believed in her! Just take it as the age. But also, are you stopping for you? I think stopping smoking is useless really unless at the end of it you are doing it for you and you alone. Congrats on making it to day 27 - I can only imagine how hard it is..I am day 9 and I am still wondering if and how I will make it in the end - it's like I am setting myself up to fail so it's a huge accomplishment to have made it to day 27!