Day at a time

Happiness your comment are so demoralizing and totally unhelpful, verging om nasty. We come on these sites to express what works for us! Then you shoot us down! I say keep those opinions to yourself. Tony82 good going mate!! You do you!! Keep doing you and forget the haters. Stay strong good buddy!!

You are doing well Tony82 Yes we all think of a cigarette now and again, I would even dream of one when I was going through withdrawals, such is our desires which is what you were trying to explain before. Food can be so enjoyable so you can enjoy the thought, you might look at other aspects in your life that you enjoy thinking about or doing, indeed your imagination doesn't require you to act. Well done for your desire to give up the smokes and for working out your own philosophy which helps strengthen your own resolve.

I’ve been smoke free for over 2 years and recently had a nightmare that I decided to start having one cig a day. It’s Crazy how deep into subconsciousness this addiction gets. However, enjoy your newly rediscovered taste buds. I gained a few pounds initially but the food tasted so good at the beginning of the quit. Enjoy it. Stay strong and smoke free.

My statement about eating steak every day was to get you thinking, what else would we do EVERY SINGLE DAY? Smoke, drink and other addictions come to mind. Eating is not an addiction, but a necessity, yet we wouldn't run to the convenience store in the middle of the night to satisfy our yen. Tony82 would not any more than i would.

Tony82 , you make a great point and I was supporting it in case there was any doubt. Thoughts of all kinds come to our minds, but it is whether or not we act on them which is important. Just dismissing negative thoughts is the best course of action.

We can even get too much of a good thing was more to my point. How did we ever let ourselves succumb to such an unhealthy addiction? The fact is that we didn't , nicotine is a highly addictive substance , cigarettes were glamorized, but we need to wake up, forgive ourselves and treat our bodies right from now on.

We can escape the smoking cycle. Knowledge is power!

Happiness, you have been a huge help to me and I totally agree with most of the points you make, The thing is I have more of a desire to achieve much in my life and spending time (which is precious) drinking smoking or other vices does not compute in my daily schedule nor do I want them too. I have used my time during my quits to find out many things that I enjoy and have acted on them, food is only one of these things.

As far as going out to a store in the dead of night is concerned this happened to me when I was pregnant and even now I race to the supermarket and bypass the cigarette counter and go for the cake instead, (back on my diet now) but it was still a craving that needed to be satisfied. You are right in saying Nicotine is the biggest problem for us, and to quote Alan Car in his book (which you recommended to me) "Nicotine is a hideous trap" I hope we can all benefit from each other as this is what we are here for and we are all learning. I hope you do not think I don't appreciate what you give to everyone on this forum, you are truly a very responsive and knowledgeable human being and look forward to your help most every day. xx

I guess my steak comment was a bad analogy. Yes, I guess we also get a craving for food from time to time.( in pregnancy certainly). Maybe it should simply be put down as requiring a dollop of dopamine. May we just agree to finding our bits of happiness in a less destructive manner than smoking cigarettes.

This journey should be littered with self rewards. Rewards of having our self esteem, good health, wealth and sense of purpose should be gratefully accepted every day. Indulgences in moderation like your cake and chocolate milk Softly40 or ordering whatever you choose off the menu once a week without regard for price are great incentives to keep on track. No one deserves to pat themselves on the back more than those who take this journey with hope and pride.

May I also say that , am I certainly not against alcohol, bingo, casino, , poker , nrt's vaping, CBD, 420 or other such things, that gives pleasure without harm to yourself or others. An ad by the Canadian government comes to mind..."Know your limit, play within it".

Cheers to another smoke free day!

Thanks guys for all your comments. Happiness you’d comment did seem a little smartass-ish lol thanks for clearing it up with your second comment. Clearly I was saying thoughts and compulsions are 2 different things. If i fear smoking 🚬 thought every time you one pops in my mind then I’m at a higher risk of relapse. We have all kinds of thoughts I even have crazy ones lol but I don’t have to act on them. P.S I personally could eat blue t-Bone stake 3 square meals every day my wife won’t let me. Lol