Not so strong...
Just yesterday my husband caught me red handed!!! he saw me smoking... he didn't say anything until we got home and that was it - we argued in front of our kids and we even had to share a few punches at each other... i knew very well that i was plain GUILTY!!! and i admitted!!! i could see in his eyes that he was very angry and he even threatened to smoke weed that he said he stopped... i knew i lied and i could not hold my tears back coz he kept pointing it out that i smoke... he wanted me to scream out loud that i smoke!!! i have a very bad feeling and i do not know what to do next.... i hope to stay quit and I WILL!!! From now on i will STOP for my husband and children!!!! Please help me. i feel helpless and hopeless!!!! I feel like i am not a good wife to my husband and mother to my kids because all these years I've been lying to them!!! HELP!!! I want my husband to trust me again and my kids to love me more!!! (Sobbing)
Thank you so much Robn... Yes, as much as i want not to quit, i need to because i have hurt my family, the very people whom i love so much. I know i have been lying all along and i need to STOP so that i cannot lie anymore. Thanks once again. xoShon
Hi Shonte as Robn pointed out it rests entirely with you to want to quit. Very hard to lie about not smoking too as the odour and stink will soon give you away. Look i really think your husband is getting angry when you smoke because he cares for you and also for the children. Not good to smoke around children anyway, ad some States enforce this ruling. I can only say to you that smoking does no one justice and the costs involved are horrendous especially over time. Do it for yourself and give up......you do not need the smokes. Think of other ways you can achieve brain happiness. Nrt are a good alternative if you feel serious about quitting. Remember anyone can quit irregardless of how long one smoked. I just celebrated 2yrs quit after smoking for 53yrs. So....come on Shonti you can do it. Cheers.
Hi Shonte.
I will never forget the time I had tried to quit but hadn't. I was at a friends bday celebration..and my husband had thought I wasn't smoking anymore. I went outside with the girls and had a cig, and he came out looking for me. Caught in the act..and his anger and dissapointed look on his face crushed me. He was so mad at me..anyways I couldn't stop back then.
I just wasn't ready. It's taken me 6 years since to do this now..for me! Yes, also for him and the kids..but it's different cos now I want to do it! It's only 10 days in..but I'm determined. Good luck to you 😊
Thank you Johnnie and Reesie for the comments.... Yes i know it's hard and i will still try to quit for my family. today marks my 8th day of not smoking... So i will eventually STOP and i know it... my will power is giving me the strength to do so... thanks once again and Good Luck to yous as well. xoxo