Another attempt...
Even though I've slipped up again, I have to remember how great it felt to breath easy; to have confidence back, to feel energised enough to hit the gym. I was making great progress....
But then after knowing my triggers...(alcohol) had a few beers and broke. Not easy when your wife smokes, but that's her choice. I need to do this for me. This is my choice, my life, my health.
why not convince her to quit as well, things will get easier for you and it will be beneficial for her as well. Its my 4th day today and only today i am feeling good with no craving at the moment :)
Hi there. I know how hard it is to quit when your partner smokes, I am in the same boat. Yes, always remember how great you felt, the freedom you had etc. Of course, this is all about you. So you slipped up...dont dwell on it, move on and stay focused...you can do this.
Farooq, it is easier said than done. We can certainly encourage but we cannot force our partners to quit, nor start nagging them about smoking etc. I definitely do not want to be that typical nagging ex smoker, cant stand them. I do admit, hubby is feeling a little 'left out' and envious that Ive done it (35 days smoke free) and wishes it was him but he has to be ready, especially in the mind. The seed has been planted....all in good time.
I agree with flora, you mustn't nag your wife to quit, it has to be her decision. You really don't want a divorce in your hands. Both Flora and I stopped smoking while our partners continued donut is possible. You have to be very selfish about it because it is about you, that's not a bad thing. I did ask my partner to hide his cigs from view so I didn't think about it, which helped.
Bottom line is you fell off the horse, so get back on and try again. Don't be sad, you know the trigger so you know what to avoid next time. You can do this, you know you can. Be strong and keep us posted.
Welcome, like others on this forum, my partner also smokes, we always smoked inside and he still does because this was my choice to stop smoking. I am 94 days smoke free
Hello everyone,
I have set a quit date for 24th of June. This date is special to me for different reasons. I started taking Champix four days ago.
Wish me luck....
Storm, hubby and I smoked inside as well. When I first quit, he still smoked inside for the first few weeks. I know it was my decision to quit but....one of the reasons I quit was for health reasons and breathing in his smoke (still) in my mind, was so unfair and inconsiderate on his part. Our kids, especially our daughter, reiterated to him the same argument and about not being supportive in that aspect. I know if it were the other way around I would've done the same for him, and he knows that. He eventually buckled and has since taken to smoking outside. I didnt stop him smoking, just got him to change places. The good thing is, he doesnt smoke quite as much because of it and especially because its cold out there, particular at night.
keep smoking and quitting wont let you have all those things you mentioned you got last time.
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hi, your post really hit a chord with me. i think you are absolutely right - do it for you, your life, your choice. best of luck & just do it!
Thanks everyone for all the positive comments. It's really helped knowing I'm not alone. Even though I set my quit date for Monday (tomorrow) I haven't smoked for the past two days. Go me!! Good luck to all:)