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it's not me ,it's you

Dear You(brand of choice),
It's been 32 years since we met, In the beginning i was intrigued by you. Lots of people i loved seemed to be taken in by you. I couldn't really see the attraction but i got sucked in. Very quickly you became my constant companion,there through good and bad times. Sometimes i forgot you but you were always there. Then children arrived and it just didn't seem appropriate. You took my Mum away,she too couldn't seem to let you go. As time went on i could see the damage,people i loved didn't like you and when they asked me to let you go i resented first them and then you for it. Then after letting you go yet again 3 years ago,the sh*t hit the fan,my life started to fall apart and you were there. It was just you and me. You started to control me and stopped me from doing the things i loved. My purse,health looks and relationships started to suffer. i thought i could keep you my dirty little secret but it didn't work..2 weeks ago i replaced you but it wasn't the same ,i spoke to people who felt the same way about you ,the love/hate relationship. But ...look,this just isn't working any more. I can't have you in my life any more,I'm know you'll find someone new..of that i have no doubt.. This is it,no more secret meetings,just goodbye..I won't miss you. Your old friend S.P.S I've met someone new..my treadmill.

Hahaha.. Very good, well done on your 2 weeks Shasha.. I am on day 15 today too..

Wow Shasha, so well written and so very true. My same feelings. When I was finally deciding to stop this controlling friend of 37 years I used to sing break up songs aimed at smoking!!! Weird I know but it had such a hold on me too. Well done, I'm on 50 days today and still relieved and Unbelieved i could do it!!!

A quitline person once said to me that 'smoking is on again, off again like a bad partner'.

Thanks guys,Kazzy,I did the same thing with breakup songs after you wrote that! Hilarious!!!