ADVICE PLEASE
PLEASE I NEED HELP
I am meeting up with friends tomorrow and half smoke and the other half don't.'What do I do. Should I cancel and pretend that I am sick, or go.
Any advice I am freaking out I don't want to smoke and I know that there will be alcohol their too. Should I just stay away.
PLEASE SUM ADVICE PLEASE
Haani
I think you should go and stick with the ones that don't smoke and if you have to, keep reminding yourself that you are a non smoker. Depending where you are meeting them, if it is a licenced premises, then the smoke shouldn't affect you as they cannot smoke indoors anymore. I still go to the club every Friday and have a few drinks but I don't venture out on the balcony anymore as that is where the smokers are and if I need to see anyone there, then they will need to come in for a drink eventually.
Good luck
I find facing my fears is always harder to the lead up, when face to face with them its not as hard as I imagined.
Thank you thank you thank you. I woke up this morning think of more ways to get out of it, but after reading what u all have said, you all are right I need to face it and have faith in me that I can avoid temptation. Thank you all so so much
I think its important not to underestimate the powerful urges that can come in the early days and if you speak to people who have quit and smoked again, they will tell you that its important not to tempt fate in the early days. I personally, having quit 4 times (for varying length of times, including 2 years / 4 years) now and not having smoked this time for only 68 days, would not put myself in a place where I believe I may crack and smoke (in the early days). I say that because, I don't want to have to quit again. So, facing fears is great, but putting yourself in an unsafe place, not so great. Important to weigh up which this situation is.
thank you so much. well I went and and it was a house party, it was the hardest day of my life i stayed inside most of the time and was freaking out and also had a bit of a cry, i new in myself i didn't want to have a smoke and lucky that i told everyone to go outside and I will cook all the food so they didn't see me cry. Temptation was so strong and my will power was weakening, it was like fighting a war that no one else could see and the war felt like it went on for months when it was for about 10 hours.
Well to cut a long story short this is day 5 of being a NON SMOKER. I did it I'm so proud of myself. But my advice to anyone that has just quit smoking just wait until after you have quit for 2 weeks before going out with friends. It was the hardest thing I have done in my whole life (and i have done alot of hard stuff in my life). also Dont go out when you have only just started. That party was on day 3 of being a non-smoker.
But anyone Thank you all so much and i love the support so much.