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This is the hardest thing I have ever done!!!

This is seriously the hardest thing I have ever done! Trying to stop smoking. This was supposed to be day 3, I stuffed up and have had 5 ciggarettes today :( Feel very bad about that.
Last night was horrible, I couldnt sleep, I was stressed beyond belief, felt like crying it was that bad! Ciggarettes are more addictive than anything I know, I used to smoke pot when I was younger everyday for over 10 years, I gave that up cold turkey and had no problems! But this smoking or trying not to smoke is killing me. I cant concentrate, i feel anxious and stressed, I dont feel like doing anything, everything annoys me, even tiny things.
I have tried patches, the tablets from the dr, neither of those helped. I am now using the mints, im not sure if they are helping or not? I have had everything go wrong that possibly could in the past few days, my fridge has died, my car has / is slowly dying, and going to cost more than I paid for it to fix, work is busy and trying to keep track of 20+ staff when all i can think about is that I want a ciggarette is bad! Not to mention y ex who I split from over 4 yrs ago is still making my life a pain any way he can, which now means ANOTHER bill every month that I have no idea of how Im going to pay.
I have no one to support me, no one to talk to when I really just want to go and have a cigga. I really want to quit and save money so I can take my son on a holiday for the first time in 5yrs, but it feels like im bouncing of the walls here and getting nowhere! :(

Hi mjay
Boy you have having a rough time at the moment. My heart goes out to you.
Have you tryed looking in to hypnotherpy or something like that.
I myself have not had a smoke now for 3 weeks I am using the patches and heaps of chewing gum. Dont know if they are really working either as I too keep bursting into tears and walk around in circle not knowing what to do.
I like you have not really got anyone to ring or talk to about this. That is why I ended up on here a few days ago.
So maybe we can surport each other.
Good Luck. Stay strong and dont let those rotten cigs get to you. There must be a light at the end of the tunnel???? I hope :)

Just hang in there, you will get through this as much as you feel like you won't at the moment. It is awful everything you have going on at the moment, but succumbing to the smokes will not fix any of your problems, you will smoke but your problems will still be there. This is a wonderful site for support, go back and read alot of the stories from people who have all been where you are now and have stopped smoking. You can do it as well. Start fresh tomorrow and just get through one day at a time. Have a bottle of water handy, some mints or fruit to put in your mouth as these really help when your having a craving. You need to distract yourself when the cravings hit. The first week is the hardest, but I promise you it does get easier. It is 4 1/2 months since my last smoke and I never thought I would be able to do it. If I can do it, so can you. Best of luck:)

Hi Camken,
I can't afford hypnotherapy! Im lucky to have $150 a month after those luxuries like rent, food and electric! I really want to quit, and be healthier and have more money for me and my son, but it always seems like one stress after another. Though this has been pretty much the story of my life for the past 4+ yrs now. I remember being told things will get better when i split from my ex, still waiting for that.....lol
I guess one thing i can be proud of is I have not smoked at work for 6 months now, So i know i can make it 9 hours a day, I just need to make it through the other 15 hours!
Hopefully after i get a few answers on a few things tomorrow that need sorting in my life will make a lot of the stress go away and make it a lot easier to do. More than anything I want to take my 8yr old son on a holiday this yr, even a few days camping would be more than we have had in 5yrs, and that is my goal. I told him I quit on sunday, and I felt so bad hiding out the back having a cigga so he wouldn't see me and be disappointed :(

I have reset my Quit date for tomorrow, I have made it through 9 hours of work a day for 6 months without smoking so out of every 24 hours I have realised -
9 hours no smoking at work
7 hours asleep no smoking
1 hour in car with my son no smoking
2 hours showers eating, etc no smoking
only 5 hours I have to deal with and not smoke :)
I CAN do this!!!

I have reset my Quit date for tomorrow, I have made it through 9 hours of work a day for 6 months without smoking so out of every 24 hours I have realised -
9 hours no smoking at work
7 hours asleep no smoking
1 hour in car with my son no smoking
2 hours showers eating, etc no smoking
only 5 hours I have to deal with and not smoke :)
I CAN do this!!!

Hi mjay. You made my eyes water up reading about you hiding around the corner from your 8yr old son sneaking a smoke. I did the same thing over 66 days ago now, hiding from my 8 yr old and 5yr old daughters. What a waste of time that was, that I could have been spending loving my kids a bit more. Now we go on walks, bike rides, drives in the car and i am NEVER thinking about the next opportunity to have a smoke. I'm enjoying time with my kids 100%. I have well and truly quit. It's very very difficult to get through the first week, but once you truly put everything else above the filthy fags, it's possible. Wish you all the best with your quit plan, I really hope you make it.

Hi mjay, like you I have no support apart from this wonderful site. I do have 2 daughters that I thought would support me but they both work and I don't like to ring them at work. I really could have used someone the other day when I found the cigarette in my car!! Everyone tells me it gets easier and I have to admit I'm not thinking about the smokes so much anymore. If the craving does hit, I usually find something to do to take my mind off it. Good luck!!!

guys /gals I hope you all beat the cigs you deserve to .Keep on trying and you will suceed

Hi mjay i feel so sorry for you with all that u r going through, as if quitting smoking isnt hard enough u have all the other hassles in your life.Do u live in Melbourne cos id love to be a friend to you and try and help and support you. it has been over 112 days since i had a smoke i know how tough it is as everybody else on here knows what its like.Just remember we are all here to help and support you in any way we can.