Feel like a failure
I was supposed to stop smoking a week ago... Every time I try not to smoke I cry and can't stop ... I really want to quit.. :( I want to do it cold turkey!!
Hi Jennylynn, I think it's time to apply the handbrake and stop putting sooooo much pressure on yourself. Like all things in life it's best to make a plan and in that plan consider all aspects such as WHY you want to quit , HOW you want to quit and WHEN you want to quit. Take some time out and formulate your plan that you are comfortable with. The journey is about forming New habits for the new you and your new life and having all that extra cash to treat yourself. I'm using high strength patches and loving them, but each to their own. Heaps of great info on this site as well as loads of support and encouragement. It's not that scary or as bad as some make out , but the main success lies in being mentally and physically ready. Take some time to ponder the above and the people on the quit line are lovely and supportive and can help you with a plan. Remember you are not alone on this journey there are loads of people on this site ready to join your support team. Xxxxxxx
Hi Jennylynn, I agree with Nanette's comments- give yourself a break and also be kind to yourself.
I feel for you Jennylynn, it's not an easy road. I don't know where you're at now, but thinkng about the physical and emotional addiction many of us have to smoking is like thinking about other physical and emotional issues with our bodies and hearts/minds.
You are a hero for even considering quitting. But you don't have to do it tough. If you break your leg, sure it'll heal eventually without a plaster cast, but it'll take longer, it's more difficult than it needs to be and it may not heal as well. You can admire yourself for your determination in getting around on your crutches, just as you can admire yourself for wearing a patch, popping a pill, being hypnotised, or chewing gum. You are doing what many smokers die dreaming of - you are taking charge and not letting your addiction control you. Crying through cold turkey does not make you weak, it just makes you human.
Don't discount the emotional attachment we can have to smoking. For me it's much stonger than the physical addiction (I know about the crying, the hurt and the 'need') seek counselling, call Quitline 10 times a day - it's what they're there for, read about emotional addiction to cigarettes by Googling it; turn it into a quest to conquer, not a test to fail. You have the strength and there are people and aids out there for you to connect with, I wish you all the very best.
Jennylyn, and all the commenters, I think I will probably go through this. Can't wait for some support to my postings so far. Feeling a bit desperate as I was going to go cold turkey today but it hasn't worked... 😂