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I want to quit smoking, because it's really bad for my health, is hard for me to breathe at this point sometimes and I developed a cronic cough which isn't nice... Also, my husband is a non'smoker, and eventho he has NEVER ever told me to quit because it bothers him... he gets sad and says he doesn't want to bury me in a not so far away future if I keep doing they I have... I would like to have a baby one day and I would like for my body to be clean at the time we get pregnant, for the safety of the baby, but also for me to be able to provide for him and care for him for many many years.

This is something I never talk about, but I hope you can get something from it. A few years ago I was in a situation similar to yours, however my wife had no issues in telling me. She was very vocal about it. She hated my smoking cause her father died of lung cancer. She hated smoking with a passion. Could you imagine having to be her and every time I had a smoke and smelt like a dirty ash tray. YUK. I’m sure she would think of her father every time she smelt it. She didn’t want to see me suffer the same fate. She refused to have children until I gave up smoking. We had so many arguments over it. I tried so hard to quit, she was such a beautiful soul and shouldn’t have had to live with my smoking. I just couldn’t quit then for her. As much as I wish I could have and just couldn’t. I tried and tried, I failed at quitting but I also failed at being a good husband. I don’t have many regrets in life but this was one them I’m divorced now, I hated myself for such a long time. I took on drinking and smoked a lot more after our separation.
It’s funny, if I was reading the same story about someone else, I would have said to myself “what an idiot, I would have quit for sure” Yeah right, it’s so easy for us to trick ourselves into believing we don’t really have such a strong addiction.
But that was a few years ago now and many more quit attempts later, I’m older, wiser and better at quitting. Somehow I have been able to turn my life around, I moved on and going strong on my quit journey I will never put anyone through that again, that includes myself.

You have such good reasons to quit. I commented on a similar situation here a month ago about quitting to have a baby. You might be able to find it but I said to her, you'll most likely automatically cut down become healthier and quit the instant you fall pregnant if not before hand, it's just inbuilt in us I think as mothers. That's just what happened to me anyway, I know some people keep smoking while pregnant, I honestly don't know how it's possible but they do? Seems like your ready now anyway so just give it a go one step at a time & you'll provide the very best for you & your family.
DoneSmoking....hmmm..I don't know what to say, except, thank you for being brave enough to share what is obviously a difficult time. Everyone will appreciate your honesty!