Constant Guilt
I feel constantly guilty about smoking - I am the worst kind of smoker because I don't smoke during the day and I can go days with out it and worst of all I only like it with alcohol. This leads me to seek out drinks more often and with friends who are smokers. I love to sit and drink wine and smoke cigarettes and socialise.
The simple answer is to quit alcohol altogether but that isn't practical as the time will come and I will be back in the game. The constant guilt and fear I feel about my smoking makes me a bit depressed and flat when I evaluate how unhealthy my lifestyle is.
I want to get my fitness back to a really good level and feel true happiness that is not hindered by the underlying fear of dying and guilt I feel.
I have decided to focus from now until Christmas on quitting for good and concentrating on other things that don't involve a wine bar and smoking friends.
I am going to focus on my running and meditation and just get emotionally healthy again. I am tired of feeling guilty and like a failure for being so weak minded. I am 41 years old and I do not need to be excessively drinking alcohol 3 times a week in order to keep smoking cigarettes.
Dear "foxyLoxy", or should I say Greame. Dianah seems to be constantly focused on what Glen and I are doing. Now you are joining a blog site that I am on! Surely there must be more to your, and Dianahs relationship than constantly focusing on what Glen and I are doing. If there is not it must be a pretty sad and sorry relationship. Surley you must have more in common with Dianah than Glen and me. You both seem to be obsessed with money, why don't you keep focusing on that!
Excuse me - but I think you very much have the wrong person - I'm very much confused by your message - I am a female - I don't know a Dianah or a glen and my name isn't Graeme. You sent me a very nice msg yesterday and I replied. Please do a fact check first before you send abusive messages to me in reply to your previous email. I suggest you leave alone or I will have to report you for harrassing me for absolutely no good reason.
I am very sorry. When I joined yesterday and sent you a msg I didn't read your username. After joining I saw the username foxyloxy which is a name My partners ex's partner uses and I am told he is very good with computers. They seem to spend a lot of time focusing on what we do instead of their own relationship.
I used to be aheavy drinker and I am still a chain smoker. I tried to give up both at the same time but when stressful things happened I would drink and of course smoke. My partner insisted I give up drinking, which I found I missed and also had a few slip ups when I got upset. Now I am much happier not drinking and I don't miss it at all. It is very hard to stop smoking when you are drinking. The only way I can see it working (if you are like me and have an addictive nature) is if you change to vodka and orange juice, and make sure you drink in moderation. Say one drink every hour so you don't loode your inhabitions and smoke. Most people find orange juice terrible with cigarettes. It would be much easier to try to give up drinking first and allow yourself the cigarettes that you would have had if you were drinking. Just make sure you count them and don't increase your smoking. You day it won't be long before you slip back to drinking. If you are drinking to releive stress instead of just socalising you might want to check that you don't have depression or an anxiety problem. My dr told me 3 out of five people have depression at some point in their lives. It is quite common, if you do you will find it extremely difficult to give up anything, because you will be self medicating to releive any bad feelings. If you find out you do, you will find anything easy to give up once you have medication. Getting fit and working out is really good for quitting smoking