Day 3 - Ups & downs...
Hi Guys,
It is day 3 for me now. I have been so happy and proud of myself up until now. It has just occured to me what is a HUGE stressor. And that is when I have a falling out within my family. I know this isn't cunselling site and I don't wish to be it's just that I've realised the worst trigger for wanting a cigarette. And it really is when times get tough. It's even harder because I actually have no one here to support me because the two people I had a a falling out with are the ones who also walked out. (I live with them). It is quite upsetting because I have tried my hardest at maintaining my mood and keeping offthe cigarettes, yet I feel like the only support I'm receiving is off this site. I suppose that's why I'm here but it would be much more helpful getting it from home as well.
I thought I would post this to be honest and to show people out there that no it's not always easy. I think it is helpful if you know your triggers and have a back up plan. Before this I was actually having a 'not so bad run'...... I was very strong, confident, excited and happy not to smoke.
I am scared I will become that upset and feel alone that I will dare let myself have a cigarette. I am trying to push through it. That's why I'm also typing this!
I'm sorry that I feel like this because of how someone else makes me feel rather then how I feel. I should really call Quitline (I said I would if I needed it).... for some reason I feel like holding back. I have never told a counsellor how I'm feeling. So this would be new for me and it's scary.
I still believe in myself and I hope I really haven't discouraged a few of you. I really am trying with all I can, I just can't beat feeling upset at the moment seeing the circumstances.
Thanks again and again to each of you who have supported me! You guys are unbelievably great! I had read all your messages and have enjoyed/appreciated every single one. My thoughts are with you guys and I'm proud to be seeing/hearing you all through!
Hey Adelle,
Firstly well done to reach day 3 as a non smoker, thats great progress.
Sounds like you've got more than enough stress going on at the moment, Cant give you advice on what to do about that, But can in regards to the giving up fags.
You have to remember why your giving up, and you have to have some type of plan in place in times when you think you might be tempted to have a cig, Use your resources, and keep the giving up fags under control, be in control of that and your gonna be ok.
Dont for a moment think by giving in and just having one cig is gonna take the stresses away, If anything its going to add fuel to the fire, You will feel dissapointed in yourself, your stresses will still be there and your gonna have to start back from day one again.
Anyway Adelle take care and I wish you all the luck in the world with your giving up the fags journey.
Way to go Adelle! 3 days, that's fantastic. Don't give in. You'll be so disappointed in yourself. Just remember that stress is a part of life, you need to find a way to deal with it. In my previous attempts to give up, I would actually start an argument with my husband so I had an excuse to go & have a ciggie. Not this time though, I'm so determined to give up (after 20 something years). It's the hardest thing I've ever done but also the best. Good luck Adelle, keep going. You're doing fantastic.
Hi Adelle, you're a very sensible and logical person. Very smart too. You have such a great sense of self - you know exactly what you're feeling and why. With that super brain of yours, you can push through this stress. Like Gam and Margie said, stress is always going to be with us in one way or another. After 3 days, you know in yourself that you don't need a cig to really deal with stress. It's just that little voice - you know it. Cast it aside. You have been a great encourager
Thank you so much for this support guys. I really thrive off it. GREAT NEWS - I DID NOT HAVE A SMOKE! yay :-) I'll take it one day at a time but tonight there won't be a chance of smoking.
You guys are so right about the stress part. I was thinking that myself. I actually chuckled when I asked myself "How does smoking help you?"...Cause realistically it doesn't but it's the little voice Mickey you described. Well I beat it tonight thankfully!
You guys really rock you do, I can't say thank you enough :-)
And thank you for saying I've been a great encourager. Means allot because I definately like to support everyone else. It's nice to do that and then to have people support you when you yourself needs it. What a wonderful site this is. I'm very glad I found it!