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Posted in Getting started 31 Mar 2021

Hi everyone, i have been smoking since 4. 5 years. I really really want to quit and have tried many times before and failed always. This time i will be trying harder than ever. Its my 1st day and i am 7 hours smoke free.

My boyfriend smokes and one of my very close friend aswell. I am with them most of the times. I am thinking not to meet them for a while and just work and sleep and go to gym.

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  • Swapnil March 31, 2021 | 21:38
    Well done Aurora. It takes a lots of courage to take this decision. Believe me, it will be the best decision of your life.
  • Happiness April 01, 2021 | 6:50
    It is definitely a decision you will never regret once quit. However, you have to quit for you, and avoiding your best friend and your boyfriend could result in a loss that you will regret. You are not quitting your life, just changing it for the better.
    Quitting smoking is easier when we realize that we are missing nothing. That means realizing that smoking does not alleviate stress, give us confidence or a necessity to socialize. I would suggest you read our stories and learn to think differently about smoking. Learn how you became a smoker. Drugged and brainwashed. The way we came to think about smoking needs changed too.

    Anyone can quit smoking and you will too, but not by hiding out and hating every moment that quitting smoking makes you feel alone. Do it the right way. When it is you who really WANTS to quit, you will and even easily. I just don't see you succeeding as planned. I smoked with hubby smoking beside me and joined my smoking friends on breaks. I gave up smoking. I did not give up my life.
  • Happiness April 01, 2021 | 6:54
    of course i meant that I quit smoking with hubby smoking beside me. Please stick with us and learn. You can quit too. Find a reason. Find the WANT. Enjoy the journey, enjoy the satisfaction of winning, enjoy the freedom!
  • softly40, Mid North Coast April 01, 2021 | 7:10
    Welcome Auroraa, You will find you are supported in your new decision, As to your friends, maybe just a few days at the beginning, but then friends can also be helpful too. It is up to you to dismiss the feeling that you need a cigarette, this is the whole point, once you can dismiss this feeling with confidence then you can keep on the journey you have started, maybe some will follow you.

    I gave up many times, I had to learn more about the addiction of the drug Nicotine, which draws us in to a never ending cycle. My Mantra is NOPE (not one puff ever) repeated every day, which I still keep up after 2 years or so.

    The biggest help was this forum which I didn't have before, so stay close, read, learn and post when you want to.
  • Auroraa, Hunter New England April 01, 2021 | 19:57
    Thank you everybody. Its been 1 day and 5 hours of me being smokefree. I hate it and i dont want to smoke again. I already feel great.
  • Happiness April 02, 2021 | 9:10
    When you take the attitude that you hate smoking , it does indeed become easier. I just didn't want you to hate missing your friends more than you would come to hate smoking. We are with you all the way. I am sure your friends would do all they can to support you as well. Stay, learn and let us know if you need help. You can do this. Cravings are mere thoughts, and the nicotine cravings only last about 72 hrs. and start to subside. Your attitude will be the factor that determines how long your journey will be. Embrace the journey and the freedom and love your new status and it will be over before you know it. We enjoy what we WANT to do.

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