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Hunter New England

So hard to quit

Posted in Getting started 11 Feb 2021

Today is my first day of quitting smoking. I have smoked for over 40 years and I’m really scared. I have asthma and my lung function is decreasing. I’m 64 years old and I already feel like crying. I need support but live alone. I would love to hear other peoples stories. Oh yes I have a Nicotine Replacement Patch on and am planning on tapering down from 20 cigarettes per day to none. Did anyone else do this? May I ask how it went and how long did it take? How many smokes did you decrease and for how long? Thank you

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  • Gemma23 February 11, 2021 | 15:29
    Hi deb welcome.
    Your in the right place to get started
    Some advice better just to put your patch on after you have smoked your final ciggerate.
    Cutting.down is so much harder because your waiting for that next ciggerate all day. So better just to smoke your final 1 and make that the ever smoke.
    You will have great support here on this site as I do. Best of luck.
  • Peddie February 11, 2021 | 22:56
    Hi Deb welcome, Good advice from Gemma23, do not smoke while using patch, nicotine overload, not wise. I smoked 36 years, stopped on two occasions for 6 months and 3 months, now I have reached the 9 month mark and enjoying the fact that I am an ex-smoker. The urge does come-and-go but I feel so much better, you are in control. It is never easy, but think of how many have stopped and enjoying the freedom to have no dependency on that little stick. I smell better, food tastes sooooo much better, I do not weaze at night and my coughing has reduced significantly. Keep it up, just think of today, today I will not have a smoke, and reward yourself with something.
  • Happiness February 11, 2021 | 23:36
    If you are on the patch, you are getting a steady dose of nicotine. The problem is that your body has become accustomed to that great jolt of dopamine that give us such pleasure on the first couple of drags. When you realize that smoking itself did not make you feel good, but ending the craving or desire for nicotine did. We only kept smoking (addicted) to relieve the cravings it itself caused. We can get a jolt of dopamine in more natural "feel good" ways. Hugs, kisses, love, chocolate, smelling lavendar and best of all EXERCISE. Learning is also a great one too. We get satisfaction from learning new things. We take pleasure in accomplishment. We take pride in quitting smoking.

    Learn to enjoy quitting smoking and looking forward to the freedom acquired once you do. There is much more to fear if you should continue to smoke, but that threat doesn't work. You have to find the DESIRE to quit. Remember that you are losing nothing and gaining everything! No one ever wished they could be a smoker.

    If you click on my name above, read my story "Never Give Up Giving Up" about how to look at a cigarette when you are smoking. Make smoking something that you do not WANT to do. Cutting back was the hardest part, so i said ENOUGH and went cold turkey. Much easier to my way of thinking. Dive in don't wade in . Has anyone enjoyed wading in? Torture. Don't say good-bye over and over missing a friend that is leaving. Think, it's time to move on and look towards the future! That change in the way of thinking will make all the difference in your journey ahead.

    In your travels and getting dopamine while learning, you might also find my stories with links to Allen Carr. Everyoone would benefit greatly by reading it. You can quit smoking!
  • Red-67 February 12, 2021 | 1:53
    Hi Deb, and Welcome :)
    We are very similar in a few ways.. I was 67 when I decided I no longer wanted to be a smoker. I also averaged about 20 / a pack, a day. I did cut down over a couple weeks, but not by design. I had 3 packs left, and made a promise to myself to never buy another one. But, while trying to make them last, I began to let myself really see the stupidity of smoking, and take the time to just look at that little tube of tobacco I LET run my life. By the end of pack 2, I no longer WANTED one, and kept the last pack, lighter, and ashtray by my chair for several weeks. That way, in my mind, there was no craving, or wanting. Sure, after smoking for 45+ years, there was physical, and mental withdrawal. Week 2 was the worst, but by the end of week 3, I knew I was free. Feb. 15, that will be 4 years ago :) You can do it too. Let yourself accept the fact, that you are an addict, and a slave to a cigarette. The more you think about it, and see through the smoke cloud, the less you will WANT one. The NRT is fine, if you think you really need it, but it will make the quit longer. Our addiction to smoking is much stronger than the addiction to nicotine. Once you change your thinking, the quit can be much easier than you think. :)
  • Robn February 12, 2021 | 11:45
    Hi Deb, great advic from everyone. Knowing you don’t want to continue smoking and believing you can do it are two different things entirely. Stay close to this community, we will help you anytime you reach out. Really try to embrace the quit, don’t resent it. Be happy that you are quitting, get pleasure from the little things that not smoking give you and there are many. Believe you can do it as we all have. I also smoked for over forty years....but I would not swap my freedom from smoking for anything. You can and will do this if you want to quit more than you want to smoke
  • Princess Mononoke February 13, 2021 | 6:48
    Hello Deb1957 just take it one day at a time and say you are not going to smoke today, the more smoke free days you got under your belt the better and more empowered you will feel, hold on to that feeling of amazement for each day under your belt and how amazing that is. I'm on day 7, and can't believe how lucky I've been to change my mind about smoking and just go with that.
  • Lia February 13, 2021 | 17:50
    Hi Deb1957. Welcome to the quitters club. Totally agree with above comments. Whats more after nearly 6 years quit and $52600 saved from the ash tray I can breathe easy. Like you I was 64 when I saw the light and decided enough was enough. Quit cold turkey. Was half way through a carton of Dunhill Blue and half way through a duty free packet of Davidoff. After 6 years I reckon I should put them on eBay... A carton cost $196 when I stopped. It now costs over $376. I would have gone broke long ago if I had not woken up to what I was doing to my health and my bank account. Can only wish for success for you.
  • Lia February 13, 2021 | 17:53
    PS: No smoking when you have patches. You could have a heart attack. Total overload of nicotine. Dangerous!
  • Peddie February 15, 2021 | 18:55
    Hi Deb1957, how you doing? One week smoke free I hope.
  • Shower , Nepean Blue Mountains February 22, 2021 | 21:57
    Hi iam the same as u at the age of 60been smoking for 45 yrs but I haven’t had a smoke for nearly 3 months iam taking champix only one a day as two are to much u can do it I will never go back
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