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I look at my actions

Posted in Staying quit 11 Sep 2020

Hello everyone I am on day 45 with a slip on day 19. Life has thrown a few curve balls my way recently which has effected my emotional and mental well-being. I am very grateful to say that it hasn't stopped me from remaining a nonsmoker. The things that have helped me have been this forum, reading your stories and commenting when I think I can be of use. I am very grateful also to those who have responded to my posts you folks certainly put a smile on my face and lighten my heart. I have been doing meditations and went for a swim in a cold lake to get my head off my fears and worry. I did this amazing thing where you go into to cold water slowly while continually taking deep breaths its a a mind and breath connection the breath is telling my brain all is well and before I knew it I was in a cold lake fully emerged besides my head not even noticing I was in cold water. It was an amazing experience. If I get to stuck in my head I look at what actions I have taken that day to keep myself emotionally balance and if I have done all the right things for me than I can just tell myself there just feelings they will pass I am taking all the correct actions. I had my yearly dentist checkup and clean today and am in the process of getting the stains of tobacco and alcohol removed from my teeth. I am so excited and grateful to be able to do that. I became alcohol free over two years ago. Giving up the smoking is my 5th and final addiction,crutch,bad habit,sickness whatever you want to call it and I couldn't be more grateful or happier. I can hardly believe have far I have come and I couldn't of done it without the help and support of others. Have a magical day everyone love and light to you all

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  • Flowers66, South Eastern Sydney October 27, 2020 | 12:36
    hi Jessfreeof,
    you are doing so well, good for you.You are so right about the mind /breath control. We are the masters of our minds,not the other way around ,and gosh it's great to tap into oursleves and find the strength we require to really be free of the trap that is addiction.Great going!
  • jessfreeof, Northern NSW September 13, 2020 | 20:00
    Thank you so much Happiness,Sevak, and softly40 I really appreciated all of your comments,tips and encouragement. Apologies for the late reply I have had a very busy weekend I read your messages when I received them but have not been able to reply till now. You have all help keep this non smoker remain a non smoker ❤️ Sevak your English is great I would never of guessed English is your third language. Have a magical week everyone 🧘🌻
  • softly40, Mid North Coast September 12, 2020 | 8:16
    So many congrats for day 45 of non-smoking and for your uplifting post to us. I also do meditation, which for me has been necessary for many other situations in life. When we look at our day before sleep and find something to make us smile then our life seems to go so well the following day. What a great experience for you and for us thankyou.
  • Sevak September 12, 2020 | 0:06
    This is a war with multiple battles, the first three weeks then the first three months are the key, then the first 9 months. You have won one of your main battles by staying smoke free for three weeks. Reward yourself by something which will remind you your achievement. As the time passes by you start to count the days less frequently the urges will become less frequent also. You will start to feel and smell the victory on the horizon. Do not give up, if you are nervous or your mood is down or feel urges or any other negative thing, just remember that all these are NORMAL and it should be this way, cause you are in a war. Your brain needs time to readjust its chemical reactions to normal state and get rid of its dependency on nicotine, it takes time, it is normal. Sorry if my English is not perfect, it is my third language.
  • Happiness September 11, 2020 | 22:41
    Hi Jessfreeof. With such wonderful attitude and positive thinking we know that you will be a success story to follow. Many slip up, but you continued on and are doing it. Your posts and comments contribute greatly to our community.

    The mind is a powerful tool to use . Dealing with our minds and emotions . Letting anxiety or depression get the better of you is non constructive. So yes, we need to do everything we can to maintain peace of mind and tranquility. Whether one meditates or takes deep breaths, blood pressure goes down. Tryptophans in the food we eat (turkey) help us to sleep sounder, Exercise releases endorphines and sources of seratonin keep us happy. We can be of better mind and body.

    Procrastination also leads to anxiety. Too much to do or think about can overwhelm us. I am guilty, and when I do, I make a list and try to cross least one off a day. You will feel better having done something and relieve some of the pressure at the same time. Positive steps lead to positive results.
    One step at a time. One day at a time. We can quit smoking and get back control.

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