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I just want to be free

Posted in Getting started 19 Apr 2020

I have tried so many years to be a non smoker , that's the only thing I want to give up in my life , I suffer with bad anxiety, my nerves goes complete off the planet , I'm great to give support to others but cant give it to myself! I don't know where to start , how to change my routine , I don't even know what to do to keep myself during the day because all I have known if I wasn't doing anything ' have a smoke' . I have set a date, I'm going to give it my full of everything , any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou

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  • Red-67 April 20, 2020 | 7:34
    Welcome :)
    I have said before, if you really want to quit, you will. The smoking is just adding to your anxiety and nerves, and gives you the illusion that it helps. Don't even go into it thinking trying. It is your hand, and your mind. It is simply a matter of saying NO. I will not smoke another one.. Sure, there will be discomfort, but only for a short time. It is all in your mind. You can do this..
    Are you still smoking, or have you stopped, and what is the plan ? This does not have to be a long hard journey. Cold turkey will make you pretty miserable for about 3 weeks. Other methods will take longer. Pick a plan, and just do it. Do not try. KNOW you do not want to smoke...
  • Happiness April 20, 2020 | 7:36
    We all at one time believed that smoking was 1) a reward and 2) done out of boredom as well as other silly beliefs. It was not a reward between chores, but a time to feed our addiction. How many times do you leave in the middle of something to get a fix? We were not bored as we had a mountain of chores to get done. There is nothing so boring as smoking. Have your next one in the corner , standing, just you and it. You will be wanting it done to get on with your day. Taste it....yuck. Realizing these things and changing how we think about smoking really does help. Want to be a non-smoker more than you want that next smoke. Crave freedom instead. The truth will set you free.
  • Jaimie77 April 20, 2020 | 23:14
    @Red-67 and Happiness
    Thankyou kindly for your reply
    Yes I'm still smoking, I've manage to cut myself back 3 smokes a day, as this Saturday 25th April is my quitting day . I have started a new routine for myself in the mornings because that's my hardest part , during the day I'm okay unless I get frustrated with something .
    Today I had washed all my clothes , clean up the area were I smoke and put cross word books and paint by numbers, as that's what I like to call it my time out area . I'm thinking positive and trying to fight off the habit because that's what it is .
  • Red-67 April 21, 2020 | 4:13
    Admit to yourself, that it is much more than a habit. You are addicted to smoking, and having to admit to yourself that you are an addict can make your resolve stronger. Over the next few days, take a moment to think, when you pull one out. Stop for just a sec, and really look at that THING you let run your life. Let your mind see past the smoke cloud / addiction. You may find it easy, to just put it back, and make it something you just don't WANT.. For me, it was easier to stop wanting them, and I had smokes, lighter, and ashtray right in front of me for a while, and kept my last unopened pack for a year. This way, I never felt deprived of them, I simply made the choice to not want them any more.. That is what worked for me. You find your way, and just accept the withdrawal / discomfort, and know it will pass in a few weeks, just like a bad cold :) You CAN do this :)
  • dstfry123, Hunter New England April 21, 2020 | 9:07
    Hi I was a 60 aday smoker till 171 days ago. Im a business owner so stress and anxiety was a normal part of my day. I thought smoking was good at relieving these symptoms until I give it away. Now I feel fantastic. I can deal with everything and what anyone throws at me with ease. Yes its hard, Im not going to tell you its a walk in the park, but i used to use a little positive affirmation I dont smoke. By the time I said this to myself a few times the feeling passed. I also used Honey Rose herbal smokes for 2 packets before I threw them out and then step 3 patches until i felt comfortable in not wearing one at all. Now Im in lockdown and have absolutely nothing to do but be in my own thoughts, I have walked my hallway 1000 times, have a healthy breakfast {which I never ate} and do my latchwork and Im surviving. You can do this, refuse to let it beat you. Your body and your bank account will love you.

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