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A good question !

Posted in Quit experiences 16 Apr 2020

I just read an interesting question, by weewillem.

(( When do you become a non-smoker ? ))

So, Just my personal view, but we may take the term, too lightly..

In a way, we can only really be ex smokers, but I like to preach learning to think like a non smoker, or more accurately, to stop thinking like a smoker. Some say, once a smoker, always a smoker, that just does not light up. I strongly disagree, but, at the same time, I do know some never really let go, and therefore do fit that description. When I decided to quit, after 45 years, it was not a decision to just not smoke. I made the choice to NOT be a smoker, ever again. It was my first, and only real attempt to quit. That was over 3 years ago now, and early on, I realized the change in my thinking.

When I smell someone's smoke there is no longing..

When I have a good stiff drink, or coffee, I do not miss the smoke that went with every one, for many years.

When I see someone smoking, my only thought is pity, because now, I understand that they are still the poor, stupid, slave that I was for too many years.

So, I suppose, when there is no longer ANY thought of wanting, missing, or craving, or any idea of a smoke, for any reason, then, and only then can you claim non-smoker status. I preach learning to THINK like a non-smoker, but if asked, I will simply say, I am not a smoker, or I WAS a smoker :)

What is your opinion ? Can we ever really be non-smokers ? In a way, ex-smoker is better, because only we can really know, and understand what it was, to be a SMOKER :)

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  • Happiness April 16, 2020 | 6:34
    Non - smoker is widely used on this site, but i would say that i am an ex-smoker or I don't smoke if asked. Non smokers might assume you never smoked. What ever the term you choose, it is the need to be free of the smoking habit and nicotine addiction that counts. You can do it and it is much easier with understanding and the desire to quit because you WANT to quit.
  • mandella, Mid North Coast April 16, 2020 | 12:06
    For me, I'm a non smoker for the reason that it reminds that i could easily become a smoker again through a moment of ignorance or stupidity. No, i don't miss smoking and if I smell it, it doesn't throw me into pangs of desire or want. 10 weeks into my journey after 53 years of being a slave and 3 previous attempts at stopping, i'm proud to say i'm a non smoker
  • Nuts April 16, 2020 | 13:14
    Its been 466 days since i had a cigarette. Am i a non smoker or a ex smoker ? Both i think. I am a ex smoker because i used to smoke. I am a non smoker because i dont and never will smoke again. I see people in the street with a smoke in their hand and i feel sorry for them. I want to shake them and say ' give it up, it will kill you'. Of course i cant do that. They have to decide for themselves. Seeing someone smoke doesnt make me want one. It makes me feel bad because i used to be that smoker. It also makes me really happy that i am not that smoker anymore. It doesnt matter what you call yourself, just be a happy quitter 🤗🤗🤗
  • Red-67 April 17, 2020 | 8:34
    I agree,, I made the choice to become a non-smoker, and have fit all those requirements, for 3+ years. We don't care, if some think the definition is only for those who have never smoked.. :) Besides, we know, and understand, more than they can.. :)
  • Safe2017 April 17, 2020 | 11:04
    I quit and was back to smoking after a year or two because in my mind I was still a smoker who chose not to smoke and throughout those quits I want es to have a smoke. If you want something bad enough eventually you’ll get it. It starts with just one puff. This time I am thinking of myself as a non smoker using NOPE mantra. Not one puff ever. So far so good.
  • My magnolia house, Illawarra Shoalhaven April 18, 2020 | 13:44
    In a previous time of not smoking (why oh why did I go back!!??) I started my journey by saying I’m not a smoker. I’m a non smoker. I just don’t smoke. It helped a lot. I’m going to think like that again this week.

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