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B*
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28/04/2019
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1st day!

Posted in Getting started 28 Apr 2019
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Hi, I am day1 without a cigarette, not even 24hrs without one yet and already I’m struggling. I know it’s just the nicotine cravings but this is going to be a long & hard journey. My husband & I have decided to quit cold turkey & do it together. But that doesn’t mean it will be any easier as I’m more of a heavy smoker than he is.

Wish me luck!

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  • Happiness April 28, 2019 | 15:27
    Hi B . I am sure that i all here will support you the best we can, but giving up smoking has nothing at all to do with luck. Nor will willpower alone do it. I do hope that you and hubby have both been with us a while and reading the posts or have some idea as to what nicotine addiction is. Believe me, i am not trying to discourage you, but is is a journey in which you must be not only be wholly committed to , but psychologically willing to take on. Tomorrow, one will seemingly win by outlasting the other, but are either of you really in it to win it?

    To win and reap the benefits of this challenge, you must become happy non-smokers. That is by believing and wanting what is best for you and your family and loved ones for the rest of your life and committing to it. There is no greater reward. Ask those who have done it. We are so thankful that we did and are rewarded each and every day for our beating the devil.

    Are you both on an Nrt? If not, don't despair because even aids like that require a forum and knowledge to succeed. You have taken a great first step . You are here and now have many others supporting you, even if some are not so vocal as i.
    You have made a commitment to each other as spouses and now to us. Personally i would rather you really take the time and initiative to read and learn and be more prepared to take on the journey and succeed than to enter it on a mere whim. You are here , and have both expressed your desire to succeed. Good news is that you can. Read and learn. Knowledge is power. Proceed as you desire, but never give up. You can quit. We are here and so are you now apparently. As far as i am concerned it is the best step you could have ever taken.

    Anyone can quit smoking. Believe it is possible. Never give up. We believe in you. Believe in yourself!
  • Happiness April 28, 2019 | 15:27
    Hi B . I am sure that i all here will support you the best we can, but giving up smoking has nothing at all to do with luck. Nor will willpower alone do it. I do hope that you and hubby have both been with us a while and reading the posts or have some idea as to what nicotine addiction is. Believe me, i am not trying to discourage you, but is is a journey in which you must be not only be wholly committed to , but psychologically willing to take on. Tomorrow, one will seemingly win by outlasting the other, but are either of you really in it to win it?

    To win and reap the benefits of this challenge, you must become happy non-smokers. That is by believing and wanting what is best for you and your family and loved ones for the rest of your life and committing to it. There is no greater reward. Ask those who have done it. We are so thankful that we did and are rewarded each and every day for our beating the devil.

    Are you both on an Nrt? If not, don't despair because even aids like that require a forum and knowledge to succeed. You have taken a great first step . You are here and now have many others supporting you, even if some are not so vocal as i.
    You have made a commitment to each other as spouses and now to us. Personally i would rather you really take the time and initiative to read and learn and be more prepared to take on the journey and succeed than to enter it on a mere whim. You are here , and have both expressed your desire to succeed. Good news is that you can. Read and learn. Knowledge is power. Proceed as you desire, but never give up. You can quit. We are here and so are you now apparently. As far as i am concerned it is the best step you could have ever taken.

    Anyone can quit smoking. Believe it is possible. Never give up. We believe in you. Believe in yourself!
  • B*, South Western Sydney April 28, 2019 | 17:11
    Thanks for the support Happiness. Much appreciated!

    My 1st post was extremely vague about my ‘quitting experience’ as I have never written/blogged/posted on a website before.
    But here’s a little bit more about my journey

    This is not the 1st time I’ve decided to quit nor am I in denial that it might not be my last attempt to quit. But I’m really hoping this is the last time I say ‘this is the last time’
    I’ve been on patches, chewing gum, I even tried vapors & my last attempt to quit a few years ago, I was taking champax which almost cost me my life (extreme suicidal thoughts)

    I was a ‘non smoker’ after a brief dosage of champax for almost 2.5yrs and then I started smoking again.
    So this time around I did my research and visited my GP on numerous occasions about this topic & my addiction to nicotine. So trust me I have definitely not jumped into this on a ‘mere whim’

    My GP and I collectively decided for me to go cold turkey this time around. I have done a lot of research on different websites and after reading numerous posts and different links, I found this website to be the most rewarding, truthful, helpful and finally a website that I didn’t find any ‘trolls’ on.

    Thank you once again for your reply and encouragement. I look forward to the on going positive support.
  • Red-67 April 28, 2019 | 22:16
    Hi B, and welcome :)
    I think quitting together, may be a big help to you both..
    This does not have to be that complicated. We hear all the talk about nicotine addiction, but that is the small part. We are, or were addicted to smoking. And once you really open your mind to just how stupid is all is, the quit gets easy. I too, quit cold turkey, after being a stupid slave to a cigarette for 45 years. The 2 things that helped me most, was, first, I let myself see just how foolish, stupid, and useless it was to be a smoker, and made up my mind, that I did not WANT them any more.. There is a big difference between wanting to quit, and absolutely not wanting to smoke. Make that cigarette something you don't want, not something you can't have. And, that led to the second thing. I did not get rid of them. I kept cigarettes, lighter, and ashtray, right next to me. In that way, I did not feel deprived, or that they had been taken away. I made up my mind, not to WANT them. Sure, the first few weeks, there were physical, and mental withdrawal, but, I can't say I have ever CRAVED, or wanted another one. This really can be as easy as you make it.. You do not have to STAY quit. You simply have to stop thinking like a smoker, and embrace setting yourself FREE of the stupidity of remaining a slave to a little tube of tobacco.
  • B*, South Western Sydney April 30, 2019 | 17:57
    Thanks Red-67! Your words & encouragement are very helpful to me as every day I’m jumping back onto this site and re-reading all the comments and people’s posts. My husband has kept his cigarette pack with him also. He has 4 left in there and keeps them not too far away from him as he says, if he knows they are available for him to smoke then he feels better knowing he can say no to smoking. On the other hand, I’m the complete opposite! I tried keeping a few before we decided to quit together and I just kept smoking them (cut down quite abit) but within 2days my 30pk was all gone, whereas my hubby still had his 4 left in his pack.
    Thanks for ur comment & advice!
  • WendyOhNo May 03, 2019 | 8:54
    If by long and hard you mean a week or two, then yes, your ‘journey’ will be long and hard. By now, its May 3rd in Australia. I suspect you’ll be rounding the corner of long and hard and hitting normal within the next 48-72 hours. Trust me, the hard part is almost over. Congrats to you and your hubby - you’ll do fantastic!

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