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I used to smoke some 20 cigs per day. I had tried many times to stop - but without success. Then I met this gorgeous lady who said "You have to stop smoking if you want to get me into bed". So I used one of my strongest project management techniques to help me. Knowing a successful outcome is a sequence of small, successful steps, I decided that I would not undertake the big "GIVE UP" or "I QUIT" because I had failed in this exercise many times!
So I would put off having a smoke for a short period of time. "I will not have a cigarette until after this meeting", or "until I have had lunch", or "until I have walked around the block". Or whatever excuse I coud find to put off having the cigarette. Then after the meeting, or the walk I could confirm the success of that decision to myself - and create a new one. Even if it was as simple as "I will not have a cigarette within the next 15 minutes".
At the start it was a challenge, but the string of successes started building pressure to not give in! Gradually I was able to extend the periods of abstinance, using periods such as "unitil after breakfast tomorrow" or such.
That process started in March, 1972 - and has lasted up until now - October 2018. I have not given up cigarettes, but I have not a single smoke since then. And yes, I married the girl and we have two amazing children. And yes, I still get the urge to light up a ciggy. But as you would expect, it does not take much self control for me to decide not to smoke - at least for another 30 minutes.
So in summary, I have not made the decision to "quit smoking". But I have not had a cigarette since March 1972.
And what I like is that THAT process of internal talk and decision making has totally confused the inner voices that used to tell me what a failure I am, how I could never stop smoking, how I was never strong enough to stop etc etc and so forth. Yes, I had some amazing help with counsellors, doctors, advisors etc. I also studied my NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) certification and used those techniques to help me. NLP can be described (among other things) as the internal language we use on ourselves, the instructions we give ourselves, and the internal self-talk.
Finally, this strategy worked and is still working for me. It may not work for other people. Almost 50 years since I had a cigarette, but such is the nature of addiction that it will never go away. I always am aware and prepared for it. I also try to eat and drink healthily.
I wish you each a beautiful , non-smoking life.
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