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Posted in Hints and tips 17 Sep 2017

I have a friend who's wife has chronic CPD and relies on oxygen. She cannot walk and used a mobility scooter. During her waking hours she cannot last half hour without a cigarette and because of the smoke filled House he has had to leave her. Up to recently he bought her cigarettes for her but now she has them delivered. He is really saddened but didn't want to die from her nicotine himself.

Lesson. Quit now while you can. I am now 741 days without a cigarette and at 69 years of age consider myself extremely lucky.

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  • Dobbin September 17, 2017 | 21:06
    The last post should have read copd
  • Robn September 18, 2017 | 8:15
    Hi dobbin,
    What a truly sad situation for both of them. The sad truth about smoking is that I either you make the decision to break free or it will consume you. It is such a destructive and lethal habit and it will get you one way or another. Imagine that poor mans pain....he loves his wife but can not live with her addiction. To be honest Dobbin it is not that you are lucky, luck has nothing to do with it, you simply chose to take back control of your life. Very very smart I think. Thanks for sharing.
  • Dobbin September 18, 2017 | 8:30
    Thanks Robn. It is all the more sad that she was our son's tutor and a highly intelligent woman. She was a superb tutor and our son's favourite.
  • Red-67 September 18, 2017 | 9:10
    Wow, That is really sad..
    A painful example of what I like to say.. Smoking makes you stupid.. We, otherwise intelligent people, let it run our life, and slowly kill us, until thankfully some trigger comes along to wake us up.. But, until we see that trigger, for ourself, we blindly keep feeding the habit / addiction.. It is a shame, that there is no magic words, or reasoning, that will cut through that wall, until we are ready to see or hear it.. I know, I can think about smoking now, for what it is, but 8 - 9 months ago, I could have been lighting one up, as I read all this, completely blind to the reality ..
  • Robn September 18, 2017 | 9:40
    So true red, anyone who wants to quit can, but you have to want it. Others telling you to quit will not work. How I wish they would just take them off the market, it would save a lot of people a lot of misery. But of course that will not happen because they want the revenue.
  • Johnnie, South Eastern Sydney September 18, 2017 | 15:00
    Dobbin, a few years back when i was a smoker i too had a friend who had a lady friend that suffered from emphysema. At that time what i saw that she had to endure ridiculously did not sway me from continuing to smoke. This lady would be puffed out from just a walk into her backyard and back into the house. She depended on oxygen also and to watch her puffing like she had run a marathon was heartbreaking.However, she continued to smoke right up to the end. I NOW ask myself how can one continue to smoke in that state of health? The addiction is so STRONG and when urges creep up we have to remember that smoking will get the better of us even if you still young. Some of us on this site were also young once. Cheers.
  • Dobbin September 18, 2017 | 23:55
    I had a cousin in Newfoundland Canada and he had to use oxygen with his emphysema and he was about my age. He died recently although he did quit smoking.
    I think we all agree that it is an insane habit but a real difficult journey to quit. I waited 53 years before I finally had the sense to give it up.

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