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Day3 and I feel terrible! The urges, night sweats out of nowhere and the constant feeling like I’ve lost a ‘dear friend.’ Sounds bizarre & stupid I know! I was a heavy smoker for 15yrs every day, almost a pack a day to now, smoke free for 3days. I thought I’d be happy & living life... but I’m depressed, mopping around the house after work (like a lost puppy) & to make me feel worse, my husband has NO side effects and isn’t thinking of smoking, carries on his day like nothing dramatic has happened in his life. I know every single person has a different smoking story, outlook on life, struggle & quit journey. But somehow I wish I had my husbands positive outlook. Don’t get me wrong, he is very supportive of me & my feelings & about how this new journey of ours is different. I feel like I’m struggling alone! Oh and btw I’m eating SO much more now... thinking of food... I must go cook dinner now!
Hi b, funny, I resonated with your comments, I’m 57 days quit with help of champix, I will not go back, but it feels like I am missing something still. My husband went cold turkey and is doing great. I am doing great but I feel like it is almost like a mid life crisis, maybe because I am home more than him, I loved sitting on the deck, coffee and cigs. Trying to keep busy and start new things outside of bloody eating. We are both so happy we have quit after 30 plus years, but yes, it is a huge change, but stick with it mate, you have smoked less years than me so have much more chance of quicker recovery, and the money saved, omg.
Hang in there 🌺 I can relate. I feel similar when I try to quit. I've relapsed after a recent 6 week success. Hoping to start again on the weekend where again I will feel similar to what you are feeling. I'm hoping with the support on this site, it will be easier.
Hi Broncor and Joze, thanks for the positive feedback/reply. Im glad you both connected with my post :) I hope you both are staying strong and continue this quit journey.
Joze - we all relapse at some point in time in something we do, whether it’s trying to become a non smoker or something else in our lives. Just remember you CAN keep going and it’s one day at a time. As clinche as it may seem and I know it sometimes sounds like abit of BS - but you can do it!
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Hello again B. I am sorry to see you struggling so, and went back to read your story. You did not quit smoking on a whim as some do. I believe that preparation and knowledge are of great help in this quit. Sheer willpower alone is sometimes just not enough and an uphill battle. You may have read Allan Carr's book in the past, but I would be well worth your time to read again. Many people, like yourself, have such an entwined relationship with the cigarette, and justifiably so, you spend many years with each other. However, you want the relationship to end. You MUST change your perception and stop regarding it as a lost friend. Stop mourning it. Start despising it. Remember how it snuck into your life and stole your health and free will. It will continue to steal you health, wealth and dreams. Now it is even blatently stealing your self respect and hopes. We have succumbed to its power over us felling helpless for many years. We are stronger than it, and we can overcome its addiction. I believe that that is the feeling of your husband and why he keeps those 4 smokes close by. He keeps his Enemy closer. He knows he has a choice and what he CHOOSES.
Please keep reading whatever you can here, on line and Allan Carr's free e-book.
http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf
You must stop missing the cigarette. It never did anything for you and it never will. You will stop craving what you do not want! Those cries to be fed mean that your are in control of this fight. You can win! You can render it powerless. Think that you can and you will!
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I will give Red67's idea of using an e-cigarette some merit, but i would advise against it if you are already nicotine free (3 or 4 days). That is going to keep that physical addiction alive, re ignite it every time you give in to it.
I am hoping you will find the strength and belief within you to keep on the path ahead. Keep reading, find the faith, the reasons to keep you reaching for your dream.
My post of "Have You Given'Up, Given'Up, Try This!" was written in hopes that i could invite back members that i never see anymore. I think it would make quits for those contemplating the journey easier, as it is a backwards approach. Psychological first, while cutting back, practicing before the jump.......
Allan Carr's book has also been posted by me several times.
You can do this B....... is for BELIEVE