Feeling nervous about slipping up
Hi,
Today is day 5 for me. I am feeling pretty good. It has been hard but I have kept pushing through. I have quit quite a number of times before. I really want this to be it though. So today my husband is coming home from work, we have a really bad cycle of smoking together, it's about the only time we hang out as a couple. He is quitting too, 5 days also. I am worried that being together will make us smoke, I am worried that his moods and my reaction to that will make me smoke. I am worried that we won't enjoy being together without smoking. Any hint etc would be amazing
that's a hard one isn't it.
I know stopping smoking lets lose issues we need to deal with and if 2 people are in a similar place in there smoking quit journey, its probably a good idea to ring the quitline or lifeline and deal with the stuff there, or a counsellor etc..
I know I owe my friend an apology for dumping a load of stuff on him the scary thing is I didn't see it coming and I been working on "stuff" for years and so after 17 days of not smoking another layer of stuff presents itself to deal with, its healing I don't need fixing I just need to talk about it in a safe place and someone who hasn't done any healing work like my mate or isn't trained isn't a safe place either.
so I need to ring lifeline if I need to have a talk let them know I don't need fixing just someone to say I understand or listen to me ramble on without judgement.
people use drugs for a reason we don't just take drugs because we are having a great day and nicotine is a drug in the opiate class when it comes to the place in the brain it affects so in short its a numbing agent and when its gone what we were numbing comes up, and if we don't deal with it no one wants to be around us.
so stopping smoking is just the 1st step for me there's some work to do to stay stopped and content.
IC