mind games
Hi everyone, just wanted to say thanks for this forum and the people on it. Just wanted to vent about my mind games on smoking...for me it is totally tied up in my anxiety and stress of everyday living; it's not tied to coffee, tea or alcohol. It's when I feel angry, down, like a loser then I have a smoke. So how do I combat that?? Any ideas? I think back to a time when I didn't smoke and I was blinkin 16!! Crikey. All my adult life, but especially from 19 onwards it has been there except for 3 years about 12 years ago and when I was pregnant of course. Anyway I am prattling on because I think I am trying to get to the bottom of the psychological tie to smokes and I think it is to do with being or thinking I failed or am a failure. Had some really hard falls and stresses in my life ... so how do you change almost a life time of being a "loser" or thinking you are ... can anyone else relate? What a challenge to change my mind to becoming not even a winner but just me without the "failure" tag.... really want to be that person for me and my twins ... so bad I can even visualise it ... its almost like I want to quite earlier than 1 July ... but is that tempting fate ...
Hey Danisu and welcome, look there is so much I want to say to you right now. You are so much more than any success or failure in life, and you need to change the way you are thinking. The addiction and psychological factors work together I believe to compound your low sense of self worth. Tell us more about when you were free 12 years ago. What made you start up again? what I know is smoking does not change stress, failures, feelings and behaviours. They are there whether you smoke or not. Believe you can do it. There is always hope. I smoked since I was 16 also, I never stopped during my 3 pregnancies either. But today I am free I have done it. I have not smoked for 6months. It has been the best thing. I found allen carrs book helpful. Hypnosis may also been a good option for you to change your thinking. Keep posting and I hope this has been encouraging .God Bless
Hi, I too have so much I want to say to you. I have been down on myself for a long time, a week ago I decided I was going to stop smoking as it was really bringing me down and I felt like a prisoner in my own home unable to go out for long as I wanted to be able to smoke and there is noone you can do that anymore without feeling like an outcast. I now feel free and happy, I am going out to dinner tonight, something I would never have been bothered with in the past. Give it a go. you can do it, you did it while you were pregnant, as I did, so you can do it now!! Good Luck Elisa
Thanks prettygirl and elisa65. Prettygirl I did not smoke during my pregnancy; just wanted to clear that up.
To answer your question prettygirl, I gave up for 3 years because I met my (ex)husband who would not tolerate smoking. I gave up to be with him. I began to resent the fact and smoked secretly :( this tells me giving up for someone else doesn't work. I have to do it for me. Really admire your determination. Elisa65 hope you had a nice dinner out :)?!
good words Neil will try the quiet place & breathe, I am day 9 champix still smoking about half the amount prior to starting champix, really want to beat the smokes Ammy
Hi danisu, I totally understand those feelings, you are not a failure. I also to not remember a day since I was 16 without a cigarette. I am a first timer to quitting, I am using champix,they are helping alot. stay strong and read the posts here they are a massive help. Wish you all the best , and hope to hear from you soon.