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I need all the help in the world I'm ok when all my family are home as soon as no one is here I'm climbing the walls I become a different person one I describe myself like a junkie trying to get a fix I hate it feeling like this
Hi willson, I know it's very hard to quit but it will get easier as you go it takes one step at a time. Are you on any treatment like the patches, lozenges, gum or any other medication that may help you stay quitting. But don't worry it will get easier.
I think the reason is this happens is because of your mind. When you are with other ppl, especially non smokers...you are occupied and engaged with other things and conversations. Once you are on your own, your focus is on you and your dilemma. Is there something else you can do, something you can get lost in, like reading, watch a movie, jigsaw puzzle, knitting, walking. Chewing gum is also very helpful. Small steps lead to bigger things...keep it up, you can do it.
Hi Wilson, wise words from flora, as always. Staying busy is the key, distracting exercises like a list of jobs you need to do, posting messages on here or exercising, that worked for me. Put on some joggers and go for a walk. You can't smoke while you're in joggers that would be ridiculous. Draw up a plan of attack and a list for when you're on your own, plus sugar free gum for anxious moments. Hope this helps.
I am by myself most of the time, I would like to think I am that shinny no one can get near me when the reality is I am hard to get on with smoking or not :)
come to some sort of peace with that a long time ago with my abuse history I am well just annoying I think, but hey I got you guys so I am not alone or lonely really I need no one to amuse me I just take a seat.
I say all this to explain that if I had what you had it would be hard for me to stop also, its what we get used too that dictates how we respond to quitting.
seriously I have quit some pretty out there drugs and nicotine is like the hardest so don't get confused about this being easy it most defiantly is not.
but 81 days with no nicotine for me proves it can be done and some days I just want one and just for that day I don't have one. and so climb the walls get depressed do what ever but don't pick up the 1st puff and do something to change and well for me its more like I get drug through the changing part, I do not change until I am forced too, its part of my addictive nature.
so change or die comes to mind and for this stubborn addict I chose die until I see its face then I change maybe not in time but I am still here but some days death can be an option , but deep down I want to live but finding that motivation sometimes is hard.
so yeah its not been easy for me quitting , but I want it no matter what if I die having a go at least I had a go and if I make it through this real crap part I am in right now maybe life will get better :)
am I just a rambling lunatic maybe , but maybe not!! only to the extent anyone understands the madness of addiction is how dependant I was on smoking, the madness in the mind is why I smoked not because I was having a good day and thought smoking would be fun, it was the last intake addiction for me to quit and I 100% didn't want too quit until I 100% wanted to quit.
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Hey Willson,
The hardest times for me have been when I am alone. When you are alone its a good time to post about how you feel right here!
I did the walks that Whitewillow talks about and am still doing them today. This morning I walked for about 30 minutes.
Take deep breaths, go for walks but all the while try to understand your addiction. The mind is tricking us by telling us we need a cigarette, then we have a puff and the nicotine goes to the brain, gives is momentary relief and then starts screwing with us by making us crave for it, so we smoke again and again and again until we are breathless from smoke and screwing up bodily functions by poisonous nicotine injections. Its not logical but I honestly feel that addiction is not logical because it is addiction. So, we need to stay off the drug to have a chance.
We need to stop for long enough to give ourselves a break from nicotine and then to start re-training our thoughts on a daily basis. We need to understand the nature of this beast. Thats how I see it. I white knuckled it for the first few days but later on it became hard . I remember the 30 days, 60 days and that I went through cycles. Now I don't feel like smoking at all and if or when I do, I know that nicotine is deceptive and I want no part of it. This is how I think one day at a time.