Day 1
Day 1.
- Smoking for 23 yrs, quit for 1 year, fell back into the habit while in uni. With friends who smoked.
- closet smoker: only smoke while alone, sometimes 2-3 in one go, if it’s been a few hours since the last time.
- my partner suspects & often makes nasty remarks about smokers to shame me.. I have no support.
- I want to quit, I’m turning 40, I hate the mentality of thinking I need it, the process of having one, and defuming afterwards..
- I miss that sense of freedom when I quit the one year, just want to be free again.
- trying this method now, patches and gum never worked for me.
Hope this time it sticks for good.
You can enjoy the freedom of being a non-smoker when you make up your mind that it is time.
We usually smoke to avoid the cravings if we do not. light up. The nicotine addiction is actually the easiest part to end. It is the psychological part of the addiction , the fear of change, or the thinking that we are giving something up is the harder issue to address.
You say that you enjoyed a year of freedom, so you do not fear what it might be like, you already know and wish to have it again.
You smoke 2-3 at once as a "closet smoker" sounds like you do it out of spite? To hurt yourself or retaliate against your husbands dig remarks. Why do you think you smoke and why can't you make the change?
We didn't choose to smoke. It is an addiction and we unwittingly fell into it. Then we are brainwashed to believe that it does things for us which it does not. Now we have to rationalize why we continue to do such a pointless act.
So we defend our actions to others and believe that we do enjoy smoking, that it gives us confidence and that it relieves boredom. We think we want to smoke, only because we have learned to light up before a craving starts. Most of us smoked before, after, and even during a chore. We used it as a reward, a crutch and used whatever excuse at hand.
You seem to get no enjoyment from smoking, don't have fear of the unknown. So what do you think holds you back? You hold the key .....
Of course, we are here to support you Mimski. We all joined to find our paths to freedom , just as you have. We hope others succeed to give us the confidence that we too can succeed. Read and learn and desire freedom more that the need to smoke. Know yourself, learn about yourself and your dependence on smoking. You too can quit smoking and be proud of it.