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I have smoked for nearly 38 years. I'm embarrassed to admit this. I fact, I have tried to not think about how long I have smoked. I need to quit. I survived breast cancer and should have quit then. Now I'm starting the constant disgusting cough with phlegm. Its time. I'm scared because I enjoy smoking. Always have. My triggers will be coffee, love my first smoke of the day with fresh coffee. I am also hopeful because I really want to know what it feels like to not need to smoke. Thank you for allowing me in the group.

Hi Mac57.
Did you really love smoking? Tell us why.
Read our stories and learn the truths about nicotine, and how we are ADDICTS. Do you like to think of yourself as an addict? Are you not tired and embarrassed to be hiding out, or enduring storms to get that fix? Think about it. What make you any better than anyone with other addictions?
Have you never wished to quit smoking before? Even with breast cancer? If you say no, then I will call you a liar.
You were so scared and yet you continued because you wanted to? So telll me what make you THINK you like smoking?
You only liked smoking to get that jolt of dopamine it provided and the fact that you fixed your addiction.
You were only relieved that the cravings were gone. We didn't like those did we, so we knew to light up before we got antsy.
Have you ever figured out how many thousands of dollars went up in smoke?
Do your children and grandchildren smoke? Do you encourage them to pursue the happiness that you found smoking?How exactly did it make you happy?
You are telling us that you CHOSE to smok,e. Bah Humbug!
You are an addict. Look in the mirror.
Now I would like answers, since I answered you.
I don't mean to be cruel, but your way of thinking has to be changed before there is any hope for you. Please read our stories. I know we can change your mind if you care to try and learn to WANT to quit smoking. That is step one. Wishing just doesn't cut it.

Hi Happiness,
Thank you for your comments. Everything you said is right. And I need honest feedback and a good butt kicking. This is the only place where I have been honest. I hide it from everyone. Most people, including my family do not know I smoke. And they don't know the extent of my villains. I am an addict. I like the feeling if that puff. It relaxes me very much like alcohol. I've been unemployed for 14 months. I'm bored but yes cigarettes and drinking, or eating take my mind off of reality. At first I would justify having a glass if wine well before dinner. Thinking this is just temporary until I get a job. Now I find myself having a drink before lunch. I know I'm in a bad place. I want to numb the pain. Everyday I tell myself I will not drink tomorrow and then talk myself out of that thinking. The tomorrow's turn to weekes and then months. My confidence is gone. My motivation is gone.

Hi Mac57.
I am glad you took my comments in a positive light. We all started like you, thinking that it was beyond us to change. Us old dogs, can learn new tricks! I also smoked over 40 years, not believing that I could quit until i

Hi Mac57.
I am glad you took my comments in a positive light. We all started like you, thinking that it was beyond us to change. Us old dogs, can learn new tricks! I also smoked over 40 years, not believing that I could quit until i

Hi Mac57.
I am glad you took my comments in a positive light. We all started like you, thinking that it was beyond us to change. Us old dogs, can learn new tricks! I also smoked over 40 years, not believing that I could quit until i

continued.......until i tried to find ways to better my health, knowing full well that smoking would only hasten my time here. Finally, I believed that it was POSSIBLE to quit. I even found that it was easy and so did my husband and daughter.
You will be amazed at all the benefits and that it will inspire you to take steps in other aspects of your life. Smoking did not give us anything, certainly not confidence. We hid behind our weakness and made excuses because we were afraid to try. We lack the confidence in ourselves. Seeing others achieve this also inspires you. Never give up on quitting smoking. It is one of the best things you will ever do in your life.
We were drugged and hooked. Then we were brainwashed into believing that quitting was hard. It is NOT that hard. When you want to do something, you find a way. When we don;t we find an excuse.. There is no excuse for smoking when it has been proven that quitting is possible. You are not special. You are not alone and we are your real friends, not the cigarette. Start looking at it in a different way. Think what life could be like. WANT It. DESIRE it more than you want to smoke. You have it in you.
It is a difficult time for you, and all the more reason to take steps to change it. Start making some lists of how you could approach things and try to impliment them one at a time. When you start seeing little improvements it will help you stick to them. Think POSITIVE.
If you click on my name "Happiness" read my story Never Give Up, Giving Up....it may help you to WANT to quit while you are still smoking. You will cut down naturally and see how your life is ruled by nicotine. Nothing ventured nothing gained. ......You will also find a link to a FREE (so no excuses) e- book by Allan Carr. A worthwhile read for anyone. The Mindset Can make Quitting EASY.
I hope my candor has helped. I wish for all to find the better life as a non-smoker, the freedom, health, wealth and confidence. Find the BELIEF, we know you can.

Keep us posted on your progress Mia. Learning the mindset first isn't a bad idea. Read the book. Read our stories. It took you so long to find us. Don't walk away now. Freedom beacons you.
ANYONE can quit smoking! You can even do it EASILY.

You will be shocked how easy it is to quit when you really want to. You do not need ciggs. If you have a cigg the craving goes away. If you dont have one the craving goes away. You are so worth it. Its fun to smell like clean laundry all day long!