Struggling
I need help, badly.
I was a smoker until I fell pregnant in October of 2017. I managed to stay smoke-free until a few months after my daughter was born. In the 18 months since then I’ve tried to quite a handful of times, once I managed to go for 10 whole weeks. But I always manage to convince myself to go back to it. I feel weak and guilty and ashamed.
After reading Alan Carr’s book I gave up three days ago. And today I bought a packet and smoked five after feeling like my brain was going severely deranged.
How do I overcome this? I feel so sad. Just really really sad.
My dear Ladysmith, such a wonderful mother who thought of her unborn baby first and foremost. This gave you your reason then, now you really need to value yourself more and give yourself your own special Mantra your own special reason for yourself every day, (write it out, say it out, every day) Consider this as a long term approach now that your short term approach has finished. For Gods sake Get back on your horse and do it properly and stay close to this forum. NOPE (not one puff ever)
It would take a lot of convincing to go back into the pit once tasting true freedom. b etter health.wealth and pride in yourself and especially understanding how the evil drug took root and gained control of us. You are not alone now and we are your new friends. Cigarrettes never did do anything for you..we can help . Join Us and stay close.
don't know exactly what to say however - i figure maybe you spoke to your GP an got some nicorette chewing gum - avoid alcohol for the first couple of weeks - remember your mindset needs to be in the groove to succeed - throw your pack of smokes in the bin - an remember how much money they cost - Yours Faithfully, Oliver Brooks :-J
There is not one person who contributes to this forum that cannot identify with parts of your journey, for myself this is my 4th attempt after 53 years of slavery to nicotine, and i believe this is the hardest thing in my life, today i'm 3 weeks free, yes i read Allan Carr's book and it is helping me on a daily basis. The only thing i can suggest is reread the book, stay close to this forum. and remember, One Day At A Time, N.O.P.E. (not one puff ever) and acknowledge what you have and not what you haven't. Cheers!
Did you read the book? you cannot just skim it. You need to identify with the feelings and situations. Understanding nicotine and you, acknowleding the truths go a long way. You can quit smoking when you realize that it is just a mooney pit with nothing to offer except despair in the end.
Thank you everyone for your comments. I've read the Allen Carr book twice, haven't skimmed either time, and while I find parts of it really stick with me, it's the associations that I'm having trouble breaking. With a young child I have very little time to myself - time to be alone with my thoughts or to read parts of the internet I enjoy or even do admin like replying to emails. I like that smoking gives me these completely free windows of time where someone else is looking after my daughter and I can stop and relax and not worry for a few minutes at a time. I don't know how to recreate that situation without smoking. And that's 100% why I continue to come undone.
I appreciate all the kind words - I'll be sticking close to this forum I think.
My youngest is about to turn 17. If I had put $24 a day away in a bank account for him instead of setting it on fire, I would be gifting him $148,920. Is that worth having a short walk around the back yard instead of lighting up?
Nobody disturbs you when you brush your teeth - try doing that, and enjoying the beautiful fresh breath it gives you instead of the ashtray breath you would get from smoking.
You are worth it.