Scared
I am in the process of quitting smoking and have set a planned quit day in 2 days - I am feeling anxious and confused - I am desperate to quit as I hate smoking and have tried on and off for 6years to stop - this time it's going to happen as I have had enough - my husband and most of our friends smoke and I'm scared that this is going to make quitting harder - the ither thing I am anxious about is being lonely which is a feeling I don't understand - without cigarettes I will be lonely - would appreciate any advice from anyone who has HaD the same feeling
Hi, I know where you are coming from. What you are feeling is what I felt as I approached my quit date/s. That feeling of thinking of you will be missing something when you quit (like you would miss a friend) is one of the big feelings I had. The other was fear of failure. I am now into day 50 of my quit and I have come to realise that smoking/nicoteen is a false friend and that the pleasure we think we are getting from smoking is a false pleasure. All we are doing by smoking is chasing a feeling of normality. Ok, we have a cigarette and we feel normal. But within a short time the drug coursing around our body starts wearing off and we need another hit to feel normal again. I have come to realise that once you break that cycle it is possible to have that feeling of normality all the time without the need of nicoteen to get there. Yes it is hard at first...I get that as much as anyone. But if you hang in there and understand that smoking really isn't your friend, you will get there.
Thanks for the comment it really helps to know that I am not alone or unusual I look forward to feeling the way you do 😊
On this site, you are definitely not alone. Do take time to check out posts on his site. You will identify with many stories. Actually posting your own thoughts empowers you and helps you believe in yourself as you take this journey. You might be losing a so called "friend" but you will find more sincere ones on this site...
yes you are cutting the throat of your best mate but after 3 or 6 weeks you will realise that your best mate was ALWAYS stabbing you in the back..we don't need this kind of mate in our lives...
Congratulations Desperate! You have picked an excellent time of year to get rid of your addiction. A large percentage of the world views the Christmas season as a time to celebrate and a time for camaraderie. I join you in your celebration of freedom from nicotine addiction. You have become a member of a growing family of ex-addicts who desire to help others live cleaner, healthier, and longer lives. Keep uppermost in your mind that the withdrawal symptoms will disappear in time. By now you have learned that the strong urges you use to get rid of by lighting-up go away without lighting-up. Think of the improved health and improved financial situation you gain by quitting one of the nastiest addictions known to man. You are a strong person and can do anything you put your mind to. Smoking has never been a friend to you, it has always been a sneak-thief stealing your health and your money while it made you and your surroundings reek of the stench of dirty ashtrays and foul smoke. What you are doing exhibits a higher level of intelligence, a stronger willpower, a greater level of care for those around you, and a desire for a better tomorrow. Merry Christmas Desperate. This is a great gift you have chosen to give to yourself, to those you love, and to the world around you!
Thanks - I actually quit cold turkey a little earlier than my planned date and have been going 24 hours now - thanks for the encouragement TheOldPhart I can't wait to celebrate freedom from so many things - merry Christmas to you too I hope you have a great time with friends and family.
Best of luck Desperate, know exactly what you are talking about with regards to smokes being your mate. I am now 8 days smoke free, and agree with Nodra - they actually are your ENEMY and always have been, we have just thought of them differently, after all, they were always there when you needed them, needed comforting, needed to celebrate something or just plain bored. I'm going to mark my 1st Month anniversary with a burial of the rotten things!