starting over
Hello all,
Well I am quitting to start over. I have spent many many years smoking and drinking. The last twelve months have been the worst. My marriage broke down and I moved out and my ex husband and I have shared care of our children. I have them one week and he has them the other week. So its the first time since they were born that I have not been with them and doing everything for them. I have taken a long time to adjust to this arrangement. So after therapy from marriage experiences and a year to get my self back on track I feel I am ready for a few life changes. Quit smoking, quit drinking and lose weight...the three big ones lol
My quit date is the 8th June 2015. Coffee, alcohol and smokes get cut in half as of today and I will slowly over the week cut out more. The exercise will increase to, well, something as I am not doing anything at the moment. Walking my dogs every day.
Wish me luck and I hope there are a few of you around to help me along the way.
thanks for reading! x
Hi there Keloch. Well I for one will certainly be here for you to help as much as I can if you need it, as I'm sure will many others. Whether it be on the 8th of June or before hand leading up to the date. I can relate to your story as I have recently fled a long & tumultuous 20 year relationship with my husband & we have 2 kids together. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with it but I finally got to the point where I either picked myself up or continued down a path of self destruction. Drinking & smoking myself to death wasn't looking like the best option. I was in such a mess I had to totally turn things around & this is where I started. I will have completed 6 weeks tomorrow.
Your plan to walk the dogs is a great idea. That's the first thing I did, I replaced my "wallowing in misery" morning coffee & cigarettes whilst watching the grass grow with an hours walk every morning. Before starting my walks, I literally spent hours upon hours watching the grass grow wondering what on earth I was going to do now. Nothing was going to happen if I didn't get up and do something. The alcohol & cigarettes weren't giving me any answers & the trees I stared at weren't going to help me. I was the only one who could truly help me. I had to trust in myself. So..... as soon as I'd put the kids on the school bus off I went, I just put one foot in front of the other & I haven't missed a day yet. It's been so beneficial to just breath and get the circulation going and contemplate where I'm headed, a new way of life and something to be happy about. Walking makes me happy, I feel great & I've lost 5 kilos. I also haven't missed a day coming to this site either, it's kept me going. Of course I have my bad days but so far I'm determined never to go back. I don't know how I've done it but I've literally turned my life upside down for the better & I'm totally in control now. It feels great. So...if I can do it, you surely can. It's certainly been a journey, a good one & I wish you all the best of luck with yours.
I'm sorry Candy, my last post was meant to be in support of you also, I failed to put your name in there too. I feel for you not having family to rely on. You may not have family but you have people here to support you & I know you can do it too. All the best to you too. Stay strong.
wow...thanks so much annemarie, Candy and Bronte. I felt stronger after reading your replies and finding I am not alone.
You are most welcome. Your never alone when you've got this site - you realise that everyone is going through the same thing and are all here to help. Your not alone.