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PuffNoMore
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EXCUSES

Posted in Reasons to quit 01 Feb 2020
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Why do so many put the decision to Quit so later in life?

How is it that one packet of smokes is purchased almost daily?

I truly respect you guys who have given up, found the freedom and no longer want a single puff. But unfortunately, there would be a majority of smokers always having some excuse to continue to smoke.

How about hearing from those smokers that cant quite get there. Success stories are always welcome here, but, lets hear from the people really struggling with their decision to Quit.

What excuse do you have?

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  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 01, 2020 | 20:44
    PS, I dont expect many comments, although some may have some excuses>

    The usual excuses is:
    I m not ready
    When this stress eases I'll Quit
    Next week
    Boredom
    Anxiety and or Depression

    Any other excuse?

  • Ears, Southern NSW February 01, 2020 | 21:26
    I found it hard to give up because my husband smoked. I tried but it was too easy to keep smoking because he didn't want to give up. I think it's important that you are around people who don't smoke and who support you wanting to give up.
  • Ears, Southern NSW February 01, 2020 | 21:27
    I found it hard to give up because my husband smoked. I tried but it was too easy to keep smoking because he didn't want to give up. I think it's important that you are around people who don't smoke and who support you wanting to give up.
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 01, 2020 | 21:49
    Yes Ears, I hEAR you. It is difficult to give up with people around you smoking. Its not an excuse. Save yourself first.
    Whats 3 days or weeks of discomfort worth to you???$$$$
  • Lia February 01, 2020 | 22:56

    Hi. Excuses to stay a smoker. Any excuse is a GOOD one. Be it a reason to celebrate or commiserate. Happy or sad. Won something or lost something. Stress or jubilation. Today is a reason to have another because tomorrow I will quit. Tomorrow rarely comes. I have stopped smoking for 5 or 10 days. That deserves a reward. I can now light up just once more. too bad I don't know when to stop after that one... So after 45 years I ran out of excuses... And you said it. They are merely excuses and spurred on by the Nicodemon. Not much point wallowing in excuses to continue smoking. I hope others visiting here don't wast 45 years trying to ruin their lives.
  • Happiness February 02, 2020 | 0:48
    just a few hours 0f a few days of pain (nagging) is so worth the immense gain. Of course there may come a time when you may not have the luxury of choice. yes. it can happen to you. it happened to me. But i quit over a year ago and will overcome this stroke because of better health by doing so.It can be done. The mind is a powerful thing.











  • Red-67 February 02, 2020 | 1:00
    We are all different, but I really do not understand the whole idea, of making excuses, or saying you want to quit. In my mind, you want to quit, or you don't. I smoked all my adult life because I liked it. I wanted to smoke. Until I realized, that I only thought that way, because I was addicted to smoking. That truth made me want to quit, and I did. I believe, anyone that really wants to quit, can, and will. There is no excuse.
  • Ears, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 8:48
    I agree. There is NO excuse. You either WANT to quit or you dont. Stop talking about it and do it.
  • Safe2017 February 02, 2020 | 9:59
    1) My best friend smokes and keeps telling me that he can quit at any time. He says he doesn’t want to because he enjoys it.
    2) another person keeps telling me that he only drinks when he drinks but he drinks pretty much all the time. Not much but constantly.
    3) I couldn’t quit because of cravings until one day when I finally quit.

    Good luck.
  • Safe2017 February 02, 2020 | 10:01
    Meant to say - he only smokes when he drinks.
  • Nuts February 02, 2020 | 15:21
    I dont know how you can afford to keep smoking if you live in Australia. The price of cigarettes here is horrendous. 🤑
  • Stevo88 February 02, 2020 | 16:44
    It doesnt matter how much they cost... nicotine is the most addictive drug in the world lol
    But yes ultimately i couldnt justify paying for them..
    35$ a day is redicoulous..
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 17:37
    It may confound some that when we say 'We want to give up', 'I'm giving up', 'Will give up' etc, etc. That these are only promises and that many of us always seem to find an excuse to stuff up or to put the Quit off until another time!
    Is that how powerful the drug nicotine is? Or is it a sign that the willpower is so week and fearful of change without the drug and ritual?
    To truly give up for good and make it a little easier, we have to not only want to Quit, but, also believe we can leave the habit behind and be absolutely happy and satisfied without the smoke.
    Australia is officially the most expensive country to buy smokes... followed by New Zealand..Ireland..Norway...UK....canada.....Pakistan is very cheap and I think most Asian countries are even cheaper!

    Definitely have to make up the mind to Quit AND also have a strong belief to stick to it!



    Cheers
  • Ears, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 20:35
    Puff....you overthink it. Doesnt matter how much you argue ...if you want to give up....you will try. You cannot find the golden solution on a website. Find it within yourself.
  • Ears, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 20:35
    Puff....you overthink it. Doesnt matter how much you argue ...if you want to give up....you will try. You cannot find the golden solution on a website. Find it within yourself.
  • Ears, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 20:36
    Puff....you overthink it. Doesnt matter how much you argue ...if you want to give up....you will try. You cannot find the golden solution on a website. Find it within yourself.
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 20:44
    Thank you Madam.
    You are very correct in your assessment of over-thinking.
    Although, I'm not only trying to assist myself. I am hoping that some of what I write may help others in my process. x
    Good luck
  • Nuts February 02, 2020 | 22:35
    You CAN do it Puff. You just have to really really want to. 🤔💕
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 02, 2020 | 22:58
    Thanks Nuts.
    Jus' thought the Excuse subject might help someone? lol
    I like to open up a debate or discussion every now and then....

    The consensuses is that there is no excuse, debate, doubt, when it comes to Quiting.
    Its either; black or white
    ...............right or wrong
    ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,want or dont want
    ...........belief or no belief.
    ............do it or dont do it.
    Determination or no determination.
    Maybe no grey areas welcome in the business of leaving the smokes in the past.
    Nicotine is a sh#t addiction..

    Its simple as that.

  • Red-67 February 03, 2020 | 3:10
    Sure Puff, there can be some grey area. It's not an easy thing to do. And yes, SMOKING, is a sh#t addiction. But, to succeed you must really want to quit, and not just talk about it for 2 years. It seems to me, that you are just torturing yourself over something that could have been done in a matter of a few weeks, and far behind you by now. Think about it, and just commit yourself to being free. You will be so happy you did :)
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 03, 2020 | 13:26
    You are all so right.
    Its time for me to stop talking and procrastinating.
    Its time.
  • Lando, Hunter New England February 03, 2020 | 16:58
    Good on you Puff. Time to commit. Will you be so bold as to announce a date?
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 03, 2020 | 18:22
    When I'm ready. (2 or 3 days time)
    20 chapters to read in the book (Allen Carr's -easy way to stop smoking)
    If I follow Allens method completely ( As he does not recommend Nicotine Replacement Aids ) I'll Cold Turkey it out.
    If at some point I decide to relent a little away from his advice and use a NRT.? I will not be applying a Nico-patch. I not only hate the irritation to my skin, but, I had used the patch for everyone of my (3) failed Quits over the last 30 month's.
    Time for a different approach.
  • Red-67 February 03, 2020 | 23:19
    OOOKKKK,, That's GREAT !
    Just a suggestion,, The one thing that helped me most, was just taking a few seconds to stop and really look at that tube of tobacco, and let myself see it for the slave driver, I LET run my life. I would ask myself if I really want this one now, and I may, or may not, put it back in the pack. It became easy to just say no, I don't want it. The next best thing, for me, was not getting rid of them. As you may have read, I kept ashtray, lighter, and smokes right handy. I never felt deprived, or that I could not have one. I no longer wanted it. Sure, there was physical withdrawal / craving, but not as in WANTING a smoke..
    That is what worked for me.. You have been here, reading how many have done it. Pick a plan, and just do it this time. Make this your first, and only, successful QUIT :) Join the ranks of HAPPY NON-SMOKERS :)
  • Trying.., Hunter New England February 04, 2020 | 15:06
    Everyone is on their town journey
    Step by step
    Day by day
  • Trying.., Hunter New England February 04, 2020 | 15:07
    Everyone is on their town journey
    Step by step
    Day by day
  • Trying.., Hunter New England February 04, 2020 | 15:07
    Everyone is on their town journey
    Step by step
    Day by day
  • Trying.., Hunter New England February 04, 2020 | 15:07
    Everyone is on their town journey
    Step by step
    Day by day
  • Trying.., Hunter New England February 04, 2020 | 15:07
    Everyone is on their town journey
    Step by step
    Day by day
  • Trying.., Hunter New England February 04, 2020 | 15:07
    Everyone is on their town journey
    Step by step
    Day by day
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 04, 2020 | 22:29
    RED
    I do not plan to keep cigarettes after my last smoke. Do you remember your last one? what time of day was it? Did you have any sleeplessness issues?
    PS; Anyone else's comments will be greatly appreciated.
  • Red-67 February 05, 2020 | 4:48
    No, I can't really say I remember the last one. By then, I was just going through the motion, to finish the pack. I did not pick a time, I had just bought 3 packs, and told myself, I would not buy any more, I quit, this is it, no more ! .. But, I was done by the second, and kept the third pack till my 1 year anniversary, and burnt it :)
    I had no problem sleeping. For the first week, or two, all I wanted to do was nap. Lack of direction, and hard to get started doing anything.. I started everything with a smoke for many years.. I hit any triggers head on, and did not change anything else about my routine. It was week 3 before anybody, including my wife even knew I had quit. Well, I think I came here around day 18. not sure now :) So, Pick a plan / direction, that works for you, and make up your mind,,, You just don't WANT to smoke. Make the quit something you really want to do. It can be as easy as you make it. Stop making excuses and just do it. It feel good, not being a slave to a smoke..
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 05, 2020 | 7:45
    All good advice RED. I'll keep it simple and not complicate my mind this time.
    After I have my last smoke. I will be (I am) absolutely certain to never have another one no matter how difficult or easy I find thing's
    No more excuses.
    I'm getting excited and looking forward to my freedom.

    I'll be cheering you on to your 3 year celebration!
  • Red-67 February 05, 2020 | 8:43
    That's the spirit.. You can do this :)
    You may want to try some celery sticks. You can chomp on them all you want. Celery burns more calories to digest, than it has in it. Some, seem to find it helps to have something to hold, and munch on. Go for it, I'll be watching :)
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 06, 2020 | 22:16
    Bye for now.

    MY TIME HAS ARRIVED

    No more excuses for me.
    Sure, I have some tough times ahead. And I will deal with them head-on.
    I wish everyone wealth, health and happiness


































    YIPPEE.
  • Cend, Sydney February 06, 2020 | 23:49
    I’m on day 4 (or 5), early days anyway.
    Was talking to a colleague today.
    Side note: Same guy that offered me a cig on day 2 and caused my only relapse so far.
    He asked why I’m quitting?
    I said mainly money, the cost is extortion! As otherwise I’m 44 next month and relatively fit and eat healthy. (He is half my age, no family of his own, lives with his parents, care free existence).
    His response was “I know a guy, same smokes, less than half the price, under the counter imports, want me to get you a few packs?”
    FFS! I don’t need reasons to keep smoking!
  • Nuts February 07, 2020 | 14:15
    Yay for you Puff. I know that you will do it this time. With a lot of determination, it may not be as tough as you think. Even if we dont hear from you for a while, know that we are thinking of you and cheering you on. Be strong mate. It really is so worth it 🤗🤑😙🥂💕
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 07, 2020 | 15:12
    Thats right. I'm not finding it as tough as before. Although. I have to get to Day 2. LOL. early days
    Its only Day one.......
  • Nuts February 07, 2020 | 17:14
    Every journey starts with a first step 😁💕
  • Broncor, Mid North Coast February 07, 2020 | 18:21
    I pondered what I could say to give you some inspiration, but you are the one that gave me so much inspiration, you and nuts, so you know how to get there, I am just under 4 weeks for my first year, 2019 was my year, 2020 is yours, it can’t beat you, unless you let it.... best of luck and courage to you my friend... yay we on our way from misery to happiness today...
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 07, 2020 | 21:31
    Day 1 nico free and soon sleep into day 2,
    It was a long day Broncor, very tired at times, Brain was a fuzz at times too!
    Looks likely when I celebrate 3 or 4 weeks. you a year! we on our way, YEP
  • Nuts February 09, 2020 | 11:32
    Hang in there Puff. I believe in you 🤗💕
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 10, 2020 | 17:55
    Thanks mate. day 4. and going great I dont smoke either.
  • Nuts February 10, 2020 | 19:14
    Lol . Good for you 🤗😊💕
  • Broncor, Mid North Coast February 12, 2020 | 15:23
    Day 6?????? And all is well, hope you are doing well, we are getting soaked up here now, think you must be too, good weather for cooking if you must be indoors, bet it tastes much better now
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 12, 2020 | 21:59
    Yes, I dont smoke!
    From Bushfires last week to floods this week.
    We locals down here are cheering. Our water storage's and reservoirs are at 100% capacity. Any spare time I get is spent on the gushing river!
    My cattle doggies are loving it.
    Today my mind was asking for a reward after finishing tasks. I havent had any thoughts like that since Quitting almost a week ago. I got through it today by telling myself that the rewards of a smoke dont exist for me now, its over, accept it and go without.
    I was so confident of being free of it recently until today, So from now on, I'm just taking this one day at a time.
    Day 7 tomorrow, no matter what happens
    I DONT Smoke
  • Red-67 February 13, 2020 | 7:03
    Great news Puff !
    If you can do a week, you can do another, and a month, and, as soon as you truly make up your mind, you simply do not want another one, you will be free.
    As long as there is even the thought of having one, reward or otherwise, you are still thinking like a smoker. When you graduate to non-smoker, you will know you are free :) You got this now. Don't even think of slipping back..
  • Nuts February 13, 2020 | 14:45
    Hey Puff. A week already. The smokefree days are flying by. A cigarette is not a reward. You dont want one. Dont let your mind play tricks on you. Dont doubt yourself now. Reward yourself with a romp in the mud with your cattle dogs, breathing beautiful fresh country air. I know that you can do it this time. The rewards are endless. I believe in you. 🐂🐕🌦🌧🌨🐃🐕💕
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 13, 2020 | 21:40
    Hi REd
    I've got it worked out. In my mind if sometimes I happen to think of a reward Puff, so be it. Just as long as I dont actually do it for real. I'm not going to stress from just one of my thoughts after one week.
    Hey Nuts.
    I was surprised to have thoughts of a reward smoke on day 6, after no such thoughts popped up on the previous 5 days. I counteracted and dismissed those thoughts and I will not be fooled. It wont defeat me. I wont let it.

    I do really appreciate everyone support and comments.

    Yours Faithfully

    PuffNoMore
  • Red-67 February 14, 2020 | 5:42
    Sure, That's great. You are on your way :)
    All I meant was, when you no longer even have those thoughts, then you are truly a happy, free, non-smoker, and you will know it :)
  • Nuts February 14, 2020 | 9:35
    I think that when we have smoked for a long time, we will always have the occasional thought of a smoke. Doesnt mean that we will have one or want one. Its more of a memory of past times. I know a lady that quit over 15 years ago and still thinks of a smoke now and then. We cant change the fact that we used to smoke, but we can be proud that we dont anymore. I am proud of you puff. You have got this. 🏁🏁🏁💕
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 14, 2020 | 15:09
    There is no doubt that I have still a way to go. Who knows. I may have hundreds and thousands of receptors from my brain demanding to be fed and I'm determined and patient to let those pathways die out as time goes by. My point was that I'm not concerned of any of those thoughts and I am not slipping back into the trap ever again.
    Red, you are almost 3 years since your last smoke, so I'd expect your old brain has recovered and discovered comfort by now. My brain is adapting, my mind, body and soul is totally propelling me along to that recovered place, or as you put it, toward A HAPPY NON_SMOKER .
    ;) I didnt mean to call you old!
    Cheers to your 3 years, It must be any day now?

  • Red-67 February 15, 2020 | 10:05
    Sure, it's been 3 years, but I knew I was free, no craving, wanting, or thoughts of having one, at week 5. So, no, it did not take months, or years, to discover that comfort, as you say.. LOL You are doing fine, just keep it up. You can get there too. And, I guess 70 is old enough :)
  • Nuts February 18, 2020 | 16:21
    Hi Puff. I just love your new positive attitude. I knew you would do it this time. Good on you mate. Stay strong 🤗🤗🤗💕
  • PuffNoMore, Southern NSW February 18, 2020 | 16:44
    Thanks Nuts, I will be two weeks on Friday!
  • Nuts February 18, 2020 | 21:51
    Yay for you 🏁🏁🏁🤗 I am really really happy for you 🤗💕

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