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"Forget what you feel, remember what you deserve"

Posted in Hints and tips 02 Sep 2019

While I am a person who strives to understand, I am also an emotional creature by nature. I always let my emotions guide me whenever I am unsure of the best thing to do. When a strong crave hits while I'm angry...BAM ...relapse. Honestly that is the reason I ALWAYS fall off the wagon. I let my emotions rule me. It can be a good thing, but in the case of quitting smoking, it is detrimental to my goal. And if in that moment I could just remember to think logically instead of emotionally I would not go & undo all my progress.

Which leads me to the bonus motivational quote of the day 😁 : "Don't do something permanently stupid because you are temporarily upset". These 2 quotes are powerful to me. They can be quite helpful when I am on the fence. LOGICALLY I know I do not want to smoke, but when I am angry or upset, sometimes even when I am depressed or feeling bad about myself my go to has been to smoke for so long that naturally that is the very first thing that pops in my head. I need to learn some coping skills I guess.

I'm posting from my phone tonight so I hope this comes out ok.

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  • Happiness September 03, 2019 | 1:14
    We all over think some situation which do not require it. Some of us rely on gut instinct. You have been mulling this over in your mind for a month now since joining IcanQuit. I am sure others share your feelings and concerns, but the fact is that you need to just make up your mind and say "I am going to do this!" Smoking will not make you happier, and doing Day 1 over multiple times is just self torture. You only need to quit once and then forget about bickering that may occur in your head. You have made your decision, ignore the thought and move on with your life.

    I do hope that you have read Allan Carr, watched How to be a happy Non-smoker with Nadia Davos and tried to find inspiration and understanding in reading all you can about nicotine . If need be, look at the gory scare of health issues. Maybe you need visual incentive.

    I am sure no one, including myself enjoyed the 72 hours of nicotine withdrawal, but it was far less than what i had imagined. Don't second guess yourself. Choose to be a Happy Non-Smoker.
  • softly40, Mid North Coast September 02, 2019 | 20:47
    Its coming out Ok themsrbeard. We are all emotional creatures and yes we all have used cigarettes to counteract our negative emotions at some point. I want you to practice putting your cigarettes away. Pretend to get angry and see what other thing your body does to counteract this anger.

    Then keep practicing this until it decipates or desolves your anger. Important! You can analyse later "its a work in progress."

    In other words learning on the job. Lets put a bit of humour in there too. Learn to laugh at yourself.

    Sent from my phone too

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