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Gonna quit

Posted in Getting started 18 May 2019

Dear I can quit community, I’m going to quit June 1st and I’m really nervous about it. I’ve tried to quit before and failed. I’m going to use the nicotine patch to help me. I hope it’s not to late to help my health and breathing. Any tips would be appreciated.

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  • Red-67 May 18, 2019 | 4:29
    Hi, and Welcome :)
    First of all, make up your mind, to do it. Don't say, or think, try. You are not a passenger. Take control of your mind, and your body, and just stop. And, it's never too late, unless you are already dead :) If you allow yourself to really see the stupidity of being a smoker. To admit to yourself, that you have let a little tube of tobacco run your life, take your money, your time, and your health.. Then, you can make that smoke something you do NOT WANT.
    I was a blind, stupid slave to smoking, all my adult life. I THOUGHT, I smoked because I wanted to, and I enjoyed it. That is all the lie, of addiction, and when you see that, the quit can be easy. This does not have to be a long, hard, journey. You can make the choice to become a non smoker. I only tried to quit once, over 2 years ago, and you can do it too..
    Tell us more about yourself, age, how long you been smoking, and how many. It will help us, help you :)
  • Margierolfe May 18, 2019 | 5:48
    Thank you! I am 55 years old and have been smoking since I was 15. I smoke a pack a day.n
  • Margierolfe May 18, 2019 | 5:50
    I would also like to add that I have a bi polar disorder and an anxiety disorder and smoking helps cope with those things

  • Happiness May 18, 2019 | 6:25
    Knowledge is power. Please read and learn about nicotine addiction. We have made excuses for smoking all of our lives, and none of them are valid. We only believe them to be our crutch in times of stress and in social settings. The truth is that nicotine is a vial addictive drug that the tobacco company adds even more chemicals to give you a quicker and higher high, irrelevant of the poisons... and the governments sanction it. Stop pouring your hard earned dollars into a death trap.

    Click on my name and follow my stories and read Allan Carr's book. It is free on line and teaches everything you need to know. Most valuable is the Mindset, and way of positive thinking that enables you to see through the addiction and enables you to face the fear of quitting.

    Embrace this journey as it is the best thing you will ever do in your life. It is astounding how our health improves almost immediately. The body is a wonderful thing and the mind is even more powerful. Think positive about this mission and you can do it. Many other have and do every day.
  • Happiness May 18, 2019 | 6:34
    Since you are not quitting for a couple of weeks i might suggest following my outline on my story "If you've Given Up , Given Up. Try This!" Ease into this without undue discomfort and fear. Learn the mindset and practice distracting yourself from cravings. Start today and you will be prepared. Read all the posts so you know what to expect. Remember that everyone is different and you are in control. You alone make this easy or hard. Do it right once and never look back.
    Believe you can and you will.
  • Red-67 May 18, 2019 | 6:39
    OK, LOL, another old timer :)
    Really, smoking does not help with anything. Of course, it seems that way, because you have adjusted to it. If anything, the smoking adds to the problems, maybe even created it, and then gives you the illusion that it helps. We see a smoke as calming, only because it created the urge, and the tension that makes you want it.. It was understanding these things, that made it fairly easy for me to quit, cold turkey, after 45+ years. This is mostly a mind game. I 'd say 20 % nicotine addiction, and 80 % habit, / routine.. We are, or were, addicted to smoking, because we went out of our way to learn how, for some stupid reason.. Think about that, and set yourself free.. It feels GOOD :)
  • Red-67 May 18, 2019 | 6:51
    Something else that helped me, since you are still smoking.. We grab one out of routine, and nicotine demand. When you go for one, just stop for a few seconds. Look at that little thing, in your fingers, and ask yourself why. Why do I let myself be a slave to this thing. When you do that, you may just decide to put it back for later, and they can get farther and farther apart. And, I did not get rid of everything. I kept a pack, lighter, and ashtray, right where they had been, so it was a choice to not WANT it. Much less stress, than not having them. Make it something you don't want, not something you can't have. It works :)
  • Margierolfe May 18, 2019 | 7:29
    Thank you for the encouragement and the tips, they really helped me feel more like I can do it! :)
  • Nuts May 18, 2019 | 18:24
    Hi Marg. I quit with the patches. It was really easy . Hardly any cravings. Habit a bit harder. With the right mindset, it becomes easier. You can do it. Believe in yourself
  • Broncor, Mid North Coast May 19, 2019 | 19:46
    Hi marg, I quit with the help of champix, certainly not for everyone, but I suffer from anxiety and ocd. I can honestly tell you that my anxiety is less than half of what it was when I was a smoker, I would smoke when stressed and my heart rate and blood pressure increased and then anxiety through the roof. I am 48, smoked for 30 years, now on bp meds, but at this rate will be off soon, talk to nuts, she used patches successfully, you ARE GOING TO FEEL SO GOOD.
  • BethP May 20, 2019 | 3:43
    The one thing I can say for sure is to make this community a part of your non-smoking life. They are an amazing group that can and will give you all of the encouragement and support you will need. We are all pulling for you! 😄 Good luck!
  • John 100 May 20, 2019 | 10:57
    Margierolfe, I tried many times to quit and failed until I finally decided I wanted to be smoke free. We can all do it if we really want to be smoke free, it's a choice between an addiction that takes your health, money and self respect against a new life of freedom from nicotine.

    At 55 your a youngster, I and many others quite after 60, so it can be done. I used NRT which worked for me, others cold turkey. Read a variety of posts and find a method, or combination of methods that resonates with you. The method doesn't matter, only the goal of being smoke free. You can do it.
  • Margierolfe May 29, 2019 | 7:37
    Thank you for your posts and emails they’ve really helped me think I can quit. I’m getting close to the date now and I really have to buckle down. I’m reading Allen Carr’s book right now although I’m finding the American version doesn’t reasonate as much as the British one did I’m hoping it will still work. Wish me luck on this journey and again thank you for your encouragement:)
  • Nuts May 29, 2019 | 19:01
    Its not luck, its mindset and determination. You can do it
  • Happiness May 30, 2019 | 15:19
    Look forward to the day you start your journey. You have already started it by understanding and knowledge. Embrace this journey and all it has to offer. It is so doable and worth it!
  • Margierolfe June 01, 2019 | 2:36
    I quit! I Smoked my final cigarette the afternoon of the 29th after I finished Allen Carr’s book. It feels so strange to be a non smoker but I feel free at the same time. I already feel better so that’s encouraging. Thanks again for your support. :)
  • Red-67 June 04, 2019 | 3:27
    Hey girl :)
    I got your note.. Listen, just make this a bump in the road. Get back on course, and make up your mind,, You do NOT WANT to be a slave to a little tube of tobacco.. SMOKING MAKES YOU STUPID. I know, that's how it works. Once It really hit me, just how stupid you had to be to smoke, that was it. I had to put them down. I had 3 packs, at the time, and made up my mind, to NEVER buy another pack. It only took 2, Let yourself think, outside the smoke cloud, and see the reality of being a smoker. Then, it gets easy to just not want one.
    Post another story. Keep us up to date. Keep talking to others that know the drill. So you slipped, no big deal.. YOU CAN DO THIS. Do it before you are 67, like I did. You still have more time to heal..

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